She asked to try on my wig!

I was recently visiting a friend from out of town who I hadn't seen in years. Her sister asked how I got my hair to stay so flat. Naturally, I assumed they knew I wore a wig. After telling my friend's sister that I wear hair, she immedialy replied by saying "I want to try it on!".

I was a bit taken aback by her request and completely ignored it...until she said again, "I want to try it on." I tried to diffuse the situation by explaning it was falling apart.

Is it just me or is asking to wear a bald woman's wig similar to wanting to share underwear? It's pretty precious to me - I don't go anywhere without it, I handle it with kid gloves, and you all know how frequently we wash our wigs (not every day). No one had ever asked me that before...especially not a grown woman in her 40s whom I barely know. I felt like this woman's excited response was bizarre and her willingness to let me stand beside her in all my baldness while she wears my hair very selfish.
Any similar experiences/feelings?

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Permalink Reply by BaldGirlsDoLunch.org on March 19, 2010 at 4:39pm
She was probably on auto-pilot and if you ask your friend if her sister is overly spontaneous and sometimes "thoughtless" or absent minded she may agree. It's not you. Clearly your feelings were not on her mind, but it wasn't malicious and it wasn't personal. I doubt she gave a thought to you before during or after. Some people are wonderful, but they just operate with a skewed filter for appropriate response. I wouldn't give it a second thought. It just never occurred to her that you would be essentially naked.

I also think that she felt a certain friendship comfort with you which is a compliment.
But if you see her again which sounds unlikely, you'll be prepared to say sweetly " well that would seem like trying on my undies, so sorry to disappoint, but the answer is no, it's not okay."

Thea
www.baldgirlsdolunch.org
Permalink Reply by Joy on March 19, 2010 at 6:29pm
I could see where that could be very uncomfortable. i would not want anyone to ask me that.... at least you know you look great in your wig!!!!!
Permalink Reply by Hilary on March 20, 2010 at 12:19am
when i used to wear wigs i was asked that heaps, with family i found it quite alright but not with people that are not close. that was very immature of that woman.
Permalink Reply by Tallgirl on October 24, 2010 at 9:24am
I just saw this. I think some people just see wigs as costumes, not body parts close to our hearts and sensitivities. They don't even consider that we might not want stretching or another's body oils on it, let alone the personal exposure while it is off our heads for their own personal fun. If your exposure was her secret goal, then she would truly be someone I would avoid. Regardless, her insistance without asking your feelings about it, alopecia, exposure etc. was VERY selfish. You had no connection to her, and no recent connection to her sister...so there was no reason why she should have even put that bold request out there. Rude, rude, rude.
Permalink Reply by Lee on February 19, 2011 at 10:36pm
Some people are strange. That's all.
Permalink Reply by VanillaPlum01 on August 2, 2011 at 6:03pm
OMG i can't believe she did this! perhapos she didnt read into it as much as someone with our disease would, but this is absurd. It's like asking someone to try on their dentures! who does that? Wow, I'm in shock

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