Smudged, wonky & falling off?!

Feeling really rather sorry for myself today:
I generally go bald, more due to quickness i guess than brave or proud, I generally pencil in brows & heavily line lids, unless the laziness/lack of time is an issue then i use large sun glasses and cap, i wouldn't say i'm happy with this set up but I'm used to it & having 2 kids aged 2 & 6 months, don't really have time to dwell ( only except most nights when trying to sleep! )
Last night was an occasion where i felt i "should" wear my wig:
Dinner with husbands colleuges & clients ( somethng i don't particulally look forward to at the best of times :-) )
I had hair the last time i saw these people & really wasn't in the mood for Q & A or even worse saying nothing! so on went the wig, on went the flase eye lashes , on went the penciled brows & lower lids
I thought i looked "ok" It was however probably one of the most Humid days of Summer so Far ( Perth Western Australia ) & before i had even left the house i was hot & bothered!
I spent the whole night sweltering under the wig, readjsting it & probably not very discreetly, i panicked any time anyone glanced my way longer than a second assuming it was because of my "hair" or prehaps my brows had smudged due to the heat or maybe even lashes had come free as the glue felt all tacky and uncomfortable, i made so many trips to the washrooms( I imagine my dinner compainions think my secret is bladder incontinence Or a drug habit!! ) to check all was in place, and whilst it was i felt a mess!
Its after nights such as these i think i'm never going out again its not worth it!!

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Permalink Reply by Tallgirl on February 17, 2011 at 12:42am
Sometimes hiding under wide-brimmed hat and big earring can work, too. A hot lipstick and smile can finish off the mysterious look.
Permalink Reply by Norm on February 17, 2011 at 7:48am
Oooh, TG, that might just finish me off as well.... ;)

Lisa: I know this is easy to say, but maybe you should just "configure" yourself to please YOU, not others. If they don't like/can't handle that, then tough. You shouldn't have to sit there all night feeling cr*ap, right?
Yeah, it's easy to say but tough to do.... but are there any better ways of dealing with it? Good Luck for next time, anyway! (...if there IS a next time.... :) )
Permalink Reply by Karen Smith on February 17, 2011 at 9:01am
Having my daughter's eyebrows tattood made her life so much easier. The brows are growing back now but have not filled in all the way so the tattos are still very useful. You can have the liner done also. This would save you alot of time and you don't have to worry about them coming off.
Permalink Reply by Jessica on February 17, 2011 at 9:50am
I would say the same as Karen... I too like you have small kids and don't have much time to fuss with things that make my morning harder then it needs to be.
I tend not to get ready for the day till after i drop the older kids to school. But i did get the tattoos and it make things a bit nicer not worrying about if i just smeard my brows off i did get my eyeliner done too but needs to be touched up. so i carry liner with me in my diaper bag for touch ups.
would love to learn the art of applying lashes but again don't have the time so i go without. I am pretty open about my haivng alopecia but do get uncomfortable when i think others are checking me out because they noticed something different about me. I guess this is something one day i will have to get over.
i try to tell myself, pretty much daily that all the people who really care about me ie. my family and close friends don't care what i look like so the rest of the people can just look and move on because i'm sure in a day, week , month they wont give me another thought. chin up
Permalink Reply by Mil Levesque on February 17, 2011 at 7:49pm
Lisa, It was well worth the money for me to get my eyebrows and eyeliner done. Originally I did it by micropigmentation aka bambooing...(it fades away after a couple of years) because I thought "what if my eyebrows grow back?" Regrowth never happened and it gets too expensive to keep up with. I was amazed though at the confidence the eyebrows alone brought me. They were truely beautiful. I got soooooo many compliments! So many women don't like their eyebrows and end up shaving them off to get tattoo or bamboo. It's kind of a fashion statement. I have now decided to try the tattooing but need to wait till i have the money for it. I also really love having the eyeliner done since I have no eyelashes and looked like a zombie with no eyeliner on. I highly recommend it. Please let me know if u have any ??'s I would love to help in any way I can. Best of luck! BTW, your baby is precious!
Oh, I also meant to tell you that I too have my bad days when I feel sorry for myself.. and I don't want to dress up and go out with my husband. Keep your head up... confidence is SEXY!! lol
Permalink Reply by robbin stein on February 17, 2011 at 8:41pm
Hi There

I read your post and was wondering what bambooing eyebrows are and how to look into it further. I have alopecia and wanted to know more about it. Thanks

Robin
Permalink Reply by LisaGunner on February 18, 2011 at 8:09am
Hi All, Tallgirl, whilst i agree with the hot lippy, i gave up wearing big earrings a long time ago :-( just can't get used to them without the hair backdrop) maybe i'll try em again.
Norm, I agree with you ( not about you in a big hat and earrings not sure its a look for you....) but about appearance should be for my benefit not others and 99% time it is, i have great support from friends & Family ( though most of them are your side of the pond, I'm a southern softie from Hertfordshire Originally ) just now & then when meeting new people or old aquaitances i can't be bothered with the "oh nothings wrong i hope" ... " no i don't have cancer" or the "oh did you shave your head" to which i feel like grabbing them & shaking em whilst saying " Do you think so really do ya!!"
Karen, Jessica & Mil, MAny thanks for taking the time to tell me about your experiences with the tattooing, i've been thinking about it for a while & i'm now booked in for 2 weeks time to get my brows done, ( permanant 5- 10 years + ) i was thinking about the semi perm ( bambooing etc ) but the more i've looked in to it , i think longer term better, many specialists said that repitition of the semi perm can cause issues with a build up of scar tissue over many years & whilst i like to think that i won't need them for long because my hair will come back ( yeah right) i need a plan for right now!! so that is the plan , i'm gonna check out the liner on the lids whilst i'm there & possibly book that as well ( baby steps...) I'm very lucky as i was naturally concerned about the cost ( i've yet to return to work after birth of daugher 6 months ago) but incredibly supportive husband insists it doesn't matter about cost if keeps me " a little sane" so already feeling more positive :-) this humid weather continues & thankfully i've been amongst only good friends last few days!!
Permalink Reply by Norm on February 18, 2011 at 3:30pm
Lisa, you've just taught me something new - I didn't realise there WAS a way of keeping wimmin sane... :)
I gave up with the big hats/earrings yonks back... the hats kept sliding off, and I'd get various species of birds perching in the rings. Sort of a poor Pirates of the Caribbean impersonation, really. :)

Gathered you were from over this way by the use of the word "lippy" - and I don't mind that you're from Hertfordshire... we can still be friends, y'know. I mean, having to put up with that AND alopecia - no wonder you fled the country, hee-hee!!!
Permalink Reply by LisaGunner on February 21, 2011 at 6:22am
Hi Norm, don't even get me started on my stereo-typical scouse Impersonation, EH EH EH Clam down........( i lost my hair but at least me car isn't on bricks ) etc etc :-) I get to practice it a lot in the northern suburbs of Perth place is full of "puddlians", so are you Red or Blue?
Permalink Reply by Norm on February 21, 2011 at 7:04am
"Clam down"? Is that your staple diet, then?? :)
Wondered where all the Scousers had gone these days... thought it'd gone quiet. The local car-sharing scheme certainly ain't what it was (you go to work in it, someone else takes it home...) ;)

Suppose I'm "blue" - but that's cos I'm a miserable git, nowt to do with footy (can't stand it!)

So you're in Perth, eh.... I dunno, peeps over there can't even say "wallet" properly.. ;)
Permalink Reply by LisaGunner on February 21, 2011 at 7:36am
haha Blimming splel chcek ain't what it used to be!! :-)

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