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staring at children
i have a problem with people staring at my grandaughter thankfuly she doesnt understand but i do why are people so rude a very upset nan
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Permalink Reply by Maygensmom on
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You know when my daughter was 3 and she suffered from AU - people always stared. She was oblivious to it, but it bothered me tremendously. Fortunalty her hair grew back. However, during that time of AU I found that there were many people that were kind and wanted to offer kind words and their prayers because they thought she was undergoing radiation and chemo. I think people are curious for the most part and the others that make fun are just simply insecure with themselves.
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Permalink Reply by julie hodges on
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my grandaughter is 3 very confiedent little girl she eye lashes no brows and is seeing a dermotoligist at our local hospital im just so glad i was put in touch with this site.
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Permalink Reply by Carol on
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Your granddaughter will probably continue to be oblivious to the fact that people are staring at her. It probably won't be until she is around six or seven that this may start to become an issue. Praise her for the beautiful girl she is and if she ever wonders why people are staring at her just let her know that it's because she's just that pretty! Make sure she knows as much as she can about alopecia that way if someone asks her about it she can answer their questions with ease and confidence. If teasing becomes a problem at school consider having your daughter or someone she trusts explain alopecia to the school during an assembly. There are many children living with alopecia who lead happy, healthy lives and grow up to be positive and productive members of society. If it bothers you, don't let her know about it, she will sense it. It's a natural reaction for people to look at something different which isn't neccesarily a bad thing. I've had the opportunity to make people aware of alopecia countless times, most people are just curious and nothing more. If there is a support group nearby it may help her to see that she is not alone.
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Permalink Reply by CathyT on
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I recently asked my daughter who is 8 (she has had alopecia universalis since 2), what it felt like to have everyone stare at her. She told me she never noticed anyone looking at her. I think it bothers us more than them.
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do you know something im learning all the time and i think it is adults who have a tough time of it .Thanks for your reply your daughter is right we are more concerned than our children take care
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Permalink Reply by Susan Lloyd-cowley on
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I am a mum to Owen who is 4 and has major aa, which is progressing to AU agressively. I have been getting major stares from all of the mums at school. Basically 30 people staring at us at the same time? when entering the school.
And although I am trying to remain possitive,to be honest guys I am stuggling. I am scared for him as he gets older not so much now, but later, relationships acceptance in general. It makes me mad with me. How do I move forward. I just want to be able to get over it all. Sorry to be so glum. I love my son, we are at the point where I feel we should shave his head, but I can't bring myself to get it done.
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My daughter started with this at 1 year old and regrew all her hair back then it started falling out again.That was the hardest time for me seeing it falling out i just wanted it all out so it had to go,its much easier to deal with.I think when they are young and these things happen its much easier for the child to deal with.You must remain positive your son will be fine your positive attitude will help him more confidence is the key.
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Permalink Reply by Dee Connelly on
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Sadly this will happen. If you can tell others that stare at her that she just has alopecia and you do not appreciate them starring at your granddaughter. People can be very rude!
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thank you for your reply but i am feeling so much more positive since joining Ap world and i know that it is helping my daughter she even gave her apinon on someones problem so thank you all you wonderful people .
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I also get bothered when people stare at my 3 year old son who has AA. But I try to look away so my kids don't notice I'm bothered. We don't make it an issue to them. Only once a few teenagers saw him and gave the rudest comment. "Holly !@#$ look at that..." I was furious, they said it so loudly too. My face turned red. I then said to myself I sure don't mind people staring @ my son cause he does not notice but please God keep him away from people who trow rude comments. I kept staring them down. They minded there own business after that. My husband came and noticed I looked upset. I whispered to him what happened and he also stared at them and told me let's just enjoy our time with the kids they are not worth it to us. So now I try to enjoy my time with them and not let others bother me anymore.
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Permalink Reply by Danielle & Lilly on
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I have a daughter with aa. she has about 25% hair left. I don't think people are rude, they are just curious. I know that if I see someone "different" I don't want to stare but then I feel like I am not looking at the person like a person deserves to be looked at. Everyone deserves to be looked at. Maybe the staring people that you refer to, just don't know when to stop. Thank God that those people don't say ugly things about her. People can be mean but remember some people don't mean to be mean. Don't let it upset you. I have thought about buying tshirts that educate people about alopecia. That might help with the stares. Once they see the bald child and then see the t shirt, the stares should stop, because their questions have been answered. I hope this helps you.
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