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141 days until our wedding
141 days until....our wedding!!! I've wanted to write a post about my fiancé for several months now. To share with this community the man who loves every part of me--the man who even loves that I do not have hair.
It is truly hard to put all of my thoughts into words. When I chose to not wear a wig, the biggest fear I had was dating. You can read some of my past insecurities in "Dating...Is it the hair?" and "Blind Date". "Do you wear a wig on the first date", "when do you tell the guy", or "would a guy even ask out the bald lady" were just some of my concerns. There were continual challenges and fears that arose.
Then one day, when I least expected, it happened. I met a man who would soon pray, "God let me see her as you see her." We met on a rare occasion when I was wearing a blond wig (later he told me that he did not remember what color hair I had). I told him over the phone that I had Alopecia and was bald. I really did not think he would ever call me back. Then, the next night the phone rang.
For our first date, I told him that I was not going to wear a wig. We were both noticeably anxious. I did not know what he would think of my smooth scalp and he did not know how he was going to react.
I have not worn a wig in his company since we first met. Actually, he's worn the wig more than I have. :)
I did not fall in love with this man simply because he accepted that I was bald. I love this man because from the beginning he went to God asking for help. Asking to see me through God's eyes and not with false judgment.
There are a lot of unknowns surrounding this journey with Alopecia. I am very thankful for all those in my life and in my fiancé's life who have affirmed our faith and guided us to a Godly perception. We are in awe of the beauty of our relationship and encourage all to be slow to judge.
It is truly hard to put all of my thoughts into words. When I chose to not wear a wig, the biggest fear I had was dating. You can read some of my past insecurities in "Dating...Is it the hair?" and "Blind Date". "Do you wear a wig on the first date", "when do you tell the guy", or "would a guy even ask out the bald lady" were just some of my concerns. There were continual challenges and fears that arose.
Then one day, when I least expected, it happened. I met a man who would soon pray, "God let me see her as you see her." We met on a rare occasion when I was wearing a blond wig (later he told me that he did not remember what color hair I had). I told him over the phone that I had Alopecia and was bald. I really did not think he would ever call me back. Then, the next night the phone rang.
For our first date, I told him that I was not going to wear a wig. We were both noticeably anxious. I did not know what he would think of my smooth scalp and he did not know how he was going to react.
I have not worn a wig in his company since we first met. Actually, he's worn the wig more than I have. :)
I did not fall in love with this man simply because he accepted that I was bald. I love this man because from the beginning he went to God asking for help. Asking to see me through God's eyes and not with false judgment.
There are a lot of unknowns surrounding this journey with Alopecia. I am very thankful for all those in my life and in my fiancé's life who have affirmed our faith and guided us to a Godly perception. We are in awe of the beauty of our relationship and encourage all to be slow to judge.
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Comment by Alexandra on March 7, 2010 at 12:10pm
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Jill, reading this bout had me in tears. It makes me feel like there might be hope for me after all.
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Comment by Devin on March 7, 2010 at 2:11pm
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What a great story Jill, it’s rewarding to see good things happen to good people. Congratulations!!!
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Comment by Linda on March 7, 2010 at 3:35pm
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Jill, Congratulations on your engagement and for meeting such a great guy... I am single, bald and 52... Do you think that could happen to me???
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Comment by Artemis88 on March 7, 2010 at 4:18pm
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Congratulations!! You have pretty summed up all that I ask for! :-)
While I don't know you, I understand exactly how you must have felt while dating, as I am going through it right now. I find that I am interested in a guy, then remind myself that he wouldn't want anything to do with a bald chick, so I usually laugh at myself and keep it moving and don't even try. I hope that one day I can find a guy who will see through to the real me on the inside just like you have!
Again congrats!!! :-)
ak
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Comment by Joy on March 7, 2010 at 11:11pm
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this was a great blog...so happy for you. i know what you mean about seeing through His eyes. you are a fortunate person to have found love and laughter with a guy who seeks Godly perception....hence the laughter, joy and love. i love the picture..lol!!!! there are great guys out there so this is encouraging to many im sure..thanks for sharing it!! best wishes for a happy life!!!
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Comment by Annette Thompson on March 8, 2010 at 1:49am
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Hi Jill, What a way you have with words! That we all could have someone to see us through God's eyes. My husband I will have our 20th this year (10 with hair, 5 with aa,5 bald for those who are keeping score). He does not see the bald...nor the extra 20 pounds come to think of it.....Congrats on your upcoming wedding!
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Comment by Jill on March 8, 2010 at 8:55am
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Thanks everyone, especially for the support this community has provided me.
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Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on March 9, 2010 at 4:57am
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Hi Jill, Congratulations! As I am sure you are just as much of a treasure as he is. Thus the reason that he could not help but call you back. ;)
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Comment by Kristine on March 13, 2010 at 10:39pm
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Congratulations ! Thank you for sharing your story.
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