Comment by Tallgirl on September 30, 2010 at 2:56am

No. Not crazy. Many women go through this, even about other physical differences. Yet...look out there even at a mall or auto show to see who is walking arm-in-arm: all sorts of people! Maybe we fuss about this and long for it because we go so many years "without" that it becomes an obsession. So...make your odds better and talk to people who are more accepting, medically informed, cavalier, etc. Think of where those people would be (support group, church, helping professions, the arts) and do your own Best Possible Repairs (teeth whitener? diet? clothes style?) to look attractive in other ways. Give it a year, and be friendly to everyone...even those who might "refer" you to friends. Talk of all subjects, avoid unhappy griping about alopecia, laugh...be someone with a great personality!

Comment by Pedro Costa on September 30, 2010 at 6:39pm

well, i think that there're tons of guys outthere that are not that superficials...in fact, in this very site there're are lot of them...i have an ex-girlfriend who got diagnosed with AA during our relationship and went to AU within 3 weeks and the only reason that we're not together is cause she is now living in London...she , and all of you, remain beautiful and sexy...

Comment by Susan P aka DGADBS on October 1, 2010 at 7:50am

Hi Ellen, I'm in the same boat as you, I can't get a grip on AU, I could handle being bald but the total hair loss has me feeling like a freak. I try to laugh it off and joke but I too am in a real funk. I wish I could give you some great advice to pick yourself up from this but I'm at a loss myself. All I can say is we will get through this, big hug and keep your chin up.

Comment by Wynter GS on October 1, 2010 at 9:52am

no its not crazy... i feel that way also, and im so sorry that that is the way the world views us, but i do know and believe that there are people in this world who can get past that and see us as beautiful... my first boyfriend knew me when i was completely bald and he still loved me very much, dont give up hope hon, im so sorry you have to go through this.

Comment by Moisuc Alexandru on October 1, 2010 at 3:12pm

i thought so to
i had girlfriends before AU a but after that its like i lost all my confidence along with my hair
it took me a while to get it back and with that the girls.what i want to say is ...belive in your self

Comment by Lisa Santer on October 1, 2010 at 5:19pm

No, you're not crazy. And it's not "your final answer." Ironically, after many years with AU, I now have AA again and feel a little freakish (partly because shaving makes me think about it more).

Over the years, my reality has been encountering a number of great guys who have seen/ do see me as beautiful/attractive with little or no hair. Bald is a good look for me. In addition, they're looking at someone who's comfortable in her own skin; who's interested in them and the world outside my level of hairiness, and who's passionate about making the world a better place. What's not to love about that?

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