Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on January 10, 2009 at 3:41pm

Letting go of what people think of you is such an important lesson, I have learned it well with alopecia.

I made the decision to no longer wear wigs to give myself peace. To start picking up comments from everyone around me would only whirl me back into a place I do not want to be. I can tell the difference between when someone is being malicious and when someone has just slipped and perhaps revealed his or her own person thoughts. People are going to react. I knew that when I made the decision. I also knew I was going to have to find a way to deal with it, without it brings me to a place of wanting to conform. I have to let people have their own opinions and thoughts in the same way I want to have mine.

I realize that you cannot be yourself until you are ready to stop pleasing others around you. To be honest I am in the process of trying to apply it to another area in my life. I guess real growth needs to be learned and repeated for it to become character. I do not believe situation only come up once, I think they keep coming around in different packaging.

PS: Babe, that picture makes me smile :)

Comment by Lee on January 10, 2009 at 9:02pm

I admire the fact that Cheryl let the comment roll off her back. It shows that she is truly comfortable with herself.

And isn't that the place we should all strive to be in?

And this comment was from a dear friend. So, I'm sure it was just a comment. But loved the way Cheryl handled it.

Comment by sgomez on January 11, 2009 at 2:08am

I also saw a video clip of Cheryl trying on wigs at the conference, and I thought she looked really realy good in a wig too!!! My personal preferance is a wig that' just me, but I think Cheryl is georgeous either way. It's funny, because I once had a facial from a Mary Kay lady. As soon as I took off my wig (so that it wouldn't get in the way) she blurted out, in her very authoritative New York accent, "Oh my God! Your georgeous! Honey I don't know why you even bother!" It made me feel really good.
In the situation of the 'fighting words', I would have wholeheartedly accepted it as a compliment and said thank you. Then I would say that I just feel more beautiful, and more like me just bald.

Comment by Natasha on January 12, 2009 at 7:12pm

I understand how you and your wife may have felt. I love my head and I choose not to wear wigs and just be myself. On occasion throughout my life I have chosen to wear wigs just for fun and have recieved comments that were okay and some that I found offensive. I have had numerous people see me with a wig and say that I would be beautiful if I had hair. It made me feel like I was ugly without it. I know that is not true and that is probably not how they meant it.

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