I am a Speaker, Trainer and Published Author. I empower women through workshops, seminars and keynote speaking engagements. I am also a fellow Alopecian. I have put my Speaking career on the back burner while I have been learning to live as a woman who is losing her hair.

I finally chose to shave off what I had left and wear a wig. The thought process was "I want them to hear my message and not be distracted by how I look."

Getting ready to start speaking and conducting workshops again, I find myself at a crossroad. More and more I want to go bald. I walk around downtown all the time without my wig. I feel comfortable here doing so. Maybe it’s because there are other ‘unique’ people wandering around. People look, then move on – no stares, no real gawkers. I do wear hats now that it is colder, but inside a building I have no problem removing it.

I forget I’m bald – when I’m bald.

I ALWAYS remember I’m bald when I am wearing my wig. Hmm….Freud –where are you when I need you???

Perhaps, I think too much that people really care about my appearance. They probably don’t rank me that high on the importance scale in their daily lives. I’m beginning to believe it’s my discomfort, my awareness, my concern about what others may think. Here’s the thing: I can’t know what other people think. I can’t control what other people think.

I can control what I think – about myself. I like being free of the stress about my lack of hair.

I am not being totally altruistic in this, or thinking about it for totally unselfish reasons.

If you attended a workshop, or went to an event and the keynote speaker was a lady; a bald lady – you might remember her more. You might not remember her name, but you would remember her.

I sell ‘me’ on stage. I am my business.

I don't want to wear a wig and feel like I'm not being me, but I don't want people thinking I'm using my bald head as just a marketing tool.

When you brand a business, you can't confuse your audience or your clients. It has to be one look - one 'me'.

So which one is really me? I guess only I can answer that.