Comment by Clara S. on May 24, 2010 at 2:13am

aww Lynne, that's really horrible that this happened to you. This person must have said some really mean stuff for you to hit him! People can be so ignorant!

Comment by Tracey Tiznor on May 24, 2010 at 2:18pm

Bad girl, Bad girl,Whatcha gonna do ? Whatcha gonna do when he come for U?....J/King......(Hugs)

Comment by lynne on May 24, 2010 at 5:35pm

thanks guys i was told today that the guy had run his hands down my hair n realised it wasnt real, then was bein a dick about it, i got so upset that i punched him, ive never had some1 notice or ask me if it was a wig, im gutted that i hit him as i never do things like that so do feel a little embarrassed but suppose its done now, but my confidence wont get any better if ignorant people never think before they speak, why cant my hair hurry n grow so i dont have to suffer this no more :(

Comment by Tracey Tiznor on May 24, 2010 at 8:13pm

Im one of thoses rare ppl that deal with pain thru humor. In no way form or fashion Im I goig to try to hurt someones feelings.leastof all some going thru the pain i have live for 30 something years.so if my joking was miss understood IM sorry

Comment by lynne on May 25, 2010 at 1:30pm

hey tracey i knew wat u wrote was a joke so dont worry,

Comment by Norm on May 26, 2010 at 1:44pm

Hey Lynne, don't feel bad about this.... well, maybe if it was a Glasgie Kiss you gave him, p'raps (you being from Embra, and that) :)
That's the thing about being human - we don't always react in a logical way (there'd be no need for this site, then, would there?) - so maybe the best thing to do is just let us all know next time you're going out on the razz.... and we'll stay outta the way, just in case... deal?? :)

Comment by lynne on May 26, 2010 at 3:03pm

dont worry aint drinkin like that for a long time anyways!! the hangovers are hell :)

Comment by Erica on May 26, 2010 at 5:29pm

Hey Lynne,

That must have been major guilts the next day. I've pretty much stopped drinking now except on the odd occasion and only with friends. I was finding that although I was coping with the alopecia normally, what I was keeping hidden deep down was coming out when I was drinking. Although the tears came out a bit more than the fists. But I find big crowds in clubs hard to deal with, especially if I'm worrying about my hair (wig) getting pulled.

Don't beat yourself up too much about hitting that guy. He does sound like a dick and although maybe not everyone's been there, I certainly have. Hitting someone when drunk is a reaction and one best avoided but it's happened and there's not a lot you can do about it now. Just take it as part of the process of what you're going through and know not to let pricks like him get under your skin in future, especially when you've had a few. I've been there, I've beat myself up about it and eventually realised that there's no point on being too hard on yourself because it doesn't achieve anything, except making you feel more miserable about yourself. And what's the point of that?

Chin up hun, and just put it behind it you.

x

Comment by lynne on May 27, 2010 at 1:17pm

erica thank u so much for ur lovely message, yip its done i have actually not been thinkin about it much more thinkin of how upset i was when he felt my hair n new it was a wig i was wearing not sure what else was said but now i feel a bit worried incase any1 else knew, i know i shouldnt bother what people think but its very hard as my confidence wasnt great in the first place, im stayin away from wine for a while im ok on any other drink but theat stuff is lethal, lol,
dont worry im doin ok but thanks for caring, xx

Comment by Erica on May 27, 2010 at 5:14pm

Hi Lynne,

I think I've got a whole different mind set to you on wearing a wig. I don't really care if people know I'm wearing a wig, cos, well, I am. I would care if I wasn't wearing one and people thought I was. I run on the assumption that people know I'm wearing a wig which clearly isn't true. I've not long started a new job and I forget that a conversation line of, "god, I think I've melted my hair" is a little confusing if it hasn't even crossed their minds that my hair isn't real. So my advice is, go out thinking that everyone knows you are wearing a wig and you'll be surprised how few people actually notice, never mind care and don't be afraid to let people know your barnet is acrylic. Losing our hair isn't something to be ashamed of - it's part of what makes us different and interesting. And let's face it, some of the wigs we wear, are so much better than some folk's bio hair. And it doesn't frizz up when it rains :-)

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