So I have read the horror stories on here about what happened when someone had informed their significant other about their alopecia. Since 2008, I have been inflicted with AA and having really done much dating until recently. I have been wearing wigs and sometimes it gets rough and frustrating due to some of the constant pain wigs can create

Well now I find myself in a weird and unfamiliar place. I am currently dating a great guy who seems to be genuinely into me. He has questioned me about whLOveether this is my real hair or weave. I informed him that it is weave (actually a self-made wig...but he has no clue of the difference...lol), but didn't really go into detail as to why I am wearing it. Now I need some advice....how long should I go before I inform him of my AA? Should I say something sooner or later?!?! My nervousness is I don't want to scare him off...because I actually like him...nor do I want to keep something like this from him and not giving him the option to know.

I like us....but I honesty don't know where we are headed!!!! My dilemma is what if I jump the gun and we don't last?!?! Anyone have any advice?

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Comment by Tallgirl on April 6, 2015 at 11:50pm

See the discussion forums in the relationship/love category. This has been discussed many times on this site.

Comment by Dedi on April 7, 2015 at 12:41am
Thx
Comment by BaldisBeautiful on April 7, 2015 at 3:33pm

Tell him....if its real...wont be an issue 

Comment by dorothy on April 7, 2015 at 3:35pm

if he really cares about YOU,  it shouldn't matter if your head has hair on it or not.  If you met him before you got AA,  then he ran away,  then he is not worth your time.  If it scares him away....good bye to him !

Comment by Poppy UK on April 7, 2015 at 4:00pm
Hi I might have the same issue soon, I don't know what I will do, but I would like to think that IF he likes you, this won't scare him whether you have hair or not and will make no difference as its you he's fallen for and not your hair, and if he does run for the hills, then you wouldn't want him in your life anyway, good luck.
Comment by Shanique on April 7, 2015 at 4:04pm

I have Alopecia totalis and my mate does not mind at all.  When we first met, I made sure that was the first thing I told him even though then it was only Alopecia Areata.  My only problem is being that he doesn't mind he wants to see what I look like without my wigs and nobody has seen me without my wigs only my kids.  He may have seen me when i forgot to put on or draw in my eyebrows and to me it's embarrassing.  

Comment by Poppy UK on April 7, 2015 at 4:09pm
If I had someone who loved me either way, I couldn't care, it's not that big a deal, confidence Is everything, pretend you don't care and nobody else will, nobody thinks a bald man looks odd.
Comment by Gabi Bastos on April 7, 2015 at 4:12pm
I have a profile on POf and also on tinder completely bald and guess what lots of guys love it. :) at pof I actually explained what i had and not the big "c" and so :)
Comment by Gabi Bastos on April 7, 2015 at 4:24pm
Just completing... Better be honest since the beginning if is real they will be with you for what you are :) we are not hair ...
Comment by Cissie55 on April 7, 2015 at 5:07pm
I have Alopecia that started three years ago. I'm 59 & my hair started coming out after the death of one of my beloved sisters. I've been married 40 years and much to my surprise my husband is fine. I'm the one with issues of embarrassment, low self esteem & feelings of no more sex appeal.

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