Do you ever resent people with hair?

Do you ever resent people with hair?  I lost my hair after chemo and it never came back.  I thought I had accepted the loss, telling myself I was alive and that if never having hair was the price for being alive it was no big deal. But more often lately I see people I know who have gone through chemo and their hair is coming back and mine did not. It is getting harder and harder not to resent them.

I have read the postings about others accepting their loss and I know there are other people out there like me but I find it harder to accept.  I miss my hair, I miss going to the beauty shop and getting my hair done.  I miss complaining about bad hair days. I miss trying out different hair colors.  I hate wearing wigs. I hate that scarves slip and will not stay on.  I hate knowing that I carry a sign that says something is wrong.  I hate people coming up to me and telling me my hair will grow back in 4 months since I finished chemo.  And yes I know I am being a whiny baby but this is how I feel.  How do ya'll cope with the feelings?

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Comment by Larry on October 20, 2013 at 1:15pm
Yes you are being Whiney, I actually admire people with beautiful hair. I never liked going for haircuts and don't miss it. I would prefer the hair but will not obsess. It's much less work and take much less time getting ready in the morning.
Comment by Keelah on October 20, 2013 at 1:08pm

YES, YES, YES!!!  I know exactly how you feel...  I have alopecia areata, which doctors say is from an autoimmune disorder.  I miss going to get my hair done too. I did everything right by my hair, going every week or every 2 weeks to get it deep conditioned.  I would wear weaves and wigs sometimes as a protective measure.  I didn't do the colors because I thought it would damage my hair.  I miss being able to pull my hair up to go workout or when I was having a "bad hair day."  I see people with a head full of hair and just get depressed.  I see people that color their hair every 6 weeks, and I get angry, thinking, "I didn't abuse my hair, yet it came out!"  I used to think that if it came out because of doing chemo, I could accept that better than the, "Oh, you have an autoimmune disorder, don't know what kind, there is no treatment, it may or may not come back" answers that I have been receiving.  I used to like wearing wigs to have a different style, but now that I have to wear them, I HATE IT!!!  Yes, I know exactly how you feel...

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