I confess to the ultimate wig addiction: Afer spending oodles on expensive pieces, I have found reckless abandon in cheap, human hair, fashion wigs (I'm talking as little as $50 - $60). I'm having to make space in my closet!

A typical fashion wig scenario --

A couple of nights ago, I wanted to pull off an edgy, sexy persona when I dropped in on Bass Man. I donned tight jeans; killer black pumps; hip shades; and a new, trendy, dark, "fierce" wig (as Christian Siriano would say)! I uncovered and dusted off my 1967 Mustand and hit the road with the windows open and the radio blasting. Fifteen minutes later I pulled into his driveway, stepped out, and struck a pose on the hood. Much more than the way I looked, my attitude had the desired effect: although it was 80+ degrees, it got even hotter! (He said, "Stay right where you are!", went into his house, and returned with a camera! It's my new profile pic.) Since I first got a wig, my fella has wanted me to feel free to wear different wigs. What a perfect guy for a gal with Alopecia, eh? But know this truth, presented positively, openly, and confidently to any guy, he'd feel the same.

The cool thing is that now I don't feel so much like a person with Alopecia, but more like a fashionista who chooses to wear wigs as a statement and accessory. Now I can vary my look and attitude not only with clothing, but with my hair as well. This is the personal silver lining that I'd hope to have when I first lost my hair. Finally freedom, creative, and fun are mine!

Of course, since I work as a teacher, I consistantly wear my expensive everyday wig while I'm at school because I'd have to educate a new crop of parents and students each year if I didn't. Much too tedious! And, just as would be applied to clothing, a certain conservative appearance is expected. But, outside of school, the sky's the limit. Maybe wigs are for you, and maybe not. But, if you are a self-described fashionista (or want to be), try this bold step and enjoy yourself. Or If you miss playing with your hair, this could be a fun way to once again focus those creative energies.

To me, Alopecia is like the end of a tragic love affair. My personal message has always been to accept the loss of your hair, be at peace with it, and move on. In my situation, I realized that I would never fall in love with myself or my life again if I didn't. When your heart is broken, your friends are here to get you through it. But in the end -- as my wonderful shrink says -- you still have to do the work. So get working, girl friend! I dare you to be bold, be whole, be "fierce"!!!

You really, truly, honestly are beautiful!

Marie