Comment by Fatimah on May 16, 2013 at 8:31am

i met a guy and i didnt tell him about my hair till one day he almost felt my wig,, but he still loves me and wants to marry me,, theres someone out there for everyone .. just break it to people slowly so they can warm up to the idea.. and be healthy and fit! it helps with hair loss hang in there :)

Comment by Denise on May 20, 2013 at 1:54am

Hi devon, my best advise to you would be to love yourself, be strong, it does get better with time, love will find you.

Comment by Yuri Kim on May 20, 2013 at 8:51pm

I have never had an appropriate boyfriend as well, because I didn't feel comfortable around them probably because that time, I thought that there's no hope for me, I didn't accept myself for who am I, so all what you have to do is just feel comfortable around yourself, because that's a really relieving feeling when you feel it for real.

Comment by Marie on August 21, 2013 at 3:34am

I see that you posted this a couple of months ago, but I'll reply anyway.

Why wouldn't a guy who is "into looks" want to be with you? just because you have Alopecia? Look at the profiles on this site -- women with Alopecia can be VERY beautiful!

I will admit, however, that perhaps various stages of hair loss is not always the look a gal is going for, but you've got some interesting options: you can shave and rock it as a bald chic -- a totally edgy, exciting look -- or you can wear wigs. Wigs are amazing! There are so many women who think of wigs as fashion accessories. Just consider the number of people who get extensions and weaves. Hair you wear is in! And you look incredible in your wig!

Also, don't feel that just because you date a guy, he has to see you without your wig. That's totally up to you. I have been dating my boyfriend for seven 1/2 years, and by my choice he has never seen me without one of my wigs (and he loves them!) Most of the people in my life know I wear wigs,and it's no big deal. When I've told some people, they've asked me if I'd take it off for them. I don't get mad or make them feel uncomfortable, I just smile and say no.

I know that this is hard to believe, but if you don't focus on wearing wigs as negative thing, others won't either -- and that includes guys. My son is 20. He's cute, smart, moral, and outgoing, and so are his guy friends. There are a bunch of girls in their close circle of friends ("The Tribe" as they like to call it). They choose to be with these girls because they are quality, fun people (and I assume that's why the girls hang out with them). Of course, there are many, many guys who are not like this, guys who don't look beyond their personal list of physical requirements (how sad for them!) But there are actually way more guys like my son and his friends who are looking for more. You need to find those guys.

Believe in the good guys and believe in yourself!

Comment by Marie on August 21, 2013 at 3:55am

Also, boyfriends are great, but a little overrated at times. Relationships can be a lot of fun, especially on Valentine's Day, but the other 364 days of the year they can take a lot energy -- more than some people realize or actually want to give.

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