Comment by Mary on April 4, 2012 at 10:48am

Absolutely! And, I honestly don't give a damn how it looks.

Comment by Tuesday on April 4, 2012 at 9:41pm

Thanks Mary, I am glad you shared these thoughts today. I was wearing my headscarf today but discussing with two friends (who have hair) the possibility that I might soon muster courage to be freely bald in public and the one woman looked aghast. She said, "well, i guess you could do that in your house ... but in public??". I was so angry!! It's just ignorance and I think most people don't mean to hurt ... but still, I wished I could get back to AW and find some bald chicks for inspiration. And here you are with your lovely photos and supportives words. Thank you!!! :)

Comment by Mary on April 5, 2012 at 12:00am

I'd like to give that friend of yours a piece of my mind (and a big dose of my bald head!) ( ;-) Thanks for your kind words. Reaching out to others on AW has helped me tremendously.

Comment by Mary on April 5, 2012 at 12:09am

Grrrr...still thinking about this comment by your friend. It's attitudes like this that are keeping most women in the (wig) closet.

Comment by Tallgirl on April 5, 2012 at 12:32am

I think Tuesday should have a posse of 12 bald folk, male and female, take her out for a public bar crawl or Easter brunch...ha ha ha!

Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on April 5, 2012 at 4:37pm

Mary, thanks for sharing this. I agree with his life philosophy. I really no longer care what others think I should do with my head. The comments no longer offend me, because I know that I have come out on the other side. I was just sitting here thinking that it really, really no longer matters. This side has so much freedom.

Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on April 5, 2012 at 4:42pm

Tuesday, this is in no disrespect to your friend. But she just does not understand the concept of freedom of other peoples opinions. It may be because she has never had to challenge it. So to her, it sounds impossible, unthinkable -- the same way I thought when I first lost my hair. I have grown way past that thinking and it looks like you are on your way there to. Part of that growth will be struggling with comments from friends and family that are close to you and in some ways you feel their opinions count. Their opinions may count, but it does not mean they are right, she is just not where you are right now.

Comment by Mary on April 5, 2012 at 6:24pm

Wise words, as usual, Cheryl.

Comment by Tuesday on April 6, 2012 at 9:50pm

Wise words and support, everyone! :) Thanks. It's ironic this person made this comment ... only earlier that day I had left my workplace and encountered a lovely looking bald woman on the street. She was with a friend and she had such a friendly open look on her face, I approached her and complimented her on how awesome she looked and quickly explained my hair status. This particular woman has cancer and is undergoing chemo. Her reaction to other people's discomfort is a shrug and who cares attitude. I was so motivated by her appearance and reaction.

Funny thing is - when my hair first fell out several years ago, I did go bald in public. I just grew tired of the jaw dropping. I think I need to revisit this whole idea, don't I? And where is this POSSEE you speak of , Tallgirl! :) Lol.

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