Comment by Amanda Carter on February 10, 2011 at 4:20pm

Rachell when I first started with alopecia I had bald patches almost exactly as you have described them, the location and size. I used to wear hairbands and slides and arrange my remaining hair accordingly, but even that took some getting used to as I had never wore such things in my hair so I immediately felt self concious. Don't feel you are complaining or being rude, far from it, you are having a bad time and I have been there so I fully understand. I am now AU, well with a little regrowth lately, and I actually find that easier than when I had 80% of my hair still left, all the covering up etc drove me mad. I feel for you I really do because it is heartbreaking for you and life changing, but you have got to believe there is light at the end of the tunnel and you will become stronger overcoming all of this, I can promise you that! I still have bad days after 5 years of Alopecia, but not many, and I would say I am a far better person for the struggles I have been through, and you will be too.
Accept all offers of help, support, advice and love, believe that you are still you with or without hair, and that will help you come to terms with your ali-p.
Good luck with your cover up jobs, I'm sure you will come up with something creative!

Comment by Rachell on February 10, 2011 at 4:55pm

thank you both for your comments. Like I said i've been going through this since I was 16 but lately the spots are coming quicker and growing back slower. Since I posted that this morning i have found more patches beginning on the back of my head. I am heart broken. But it could be worse. I don't have cancer....i'm not sick...i'm just....going bald.

Comment by Amanda Carter on February 10, 2011 at 5:17pm

Mmm the whole "it could be worse I could have cancer" argument is right but it often doesn't work when you are feeling at your lowest. I used to say that all the time but deep down to be honest I still felt pretty sorry for myself. Accept that you feel bad right now, you are allowed, losing you hair is very tough to cope with in whatever stage or form, and you are doing the best you can to deal with it. Finding other patches is a gut wrenching horrible feeling, I still remember pulling a massive thick ponytail of my hair out of my bath plug hole, the feeling was like you say heartbreaking, but I got over it and moved on from it, and so will you.
Set yourself little challenges every day, to do something positive no matter how bad you feel, make sure you go out somewhere every day, and don't let it it beat you, I'm sure you won't!

Comment by Karen Smith on February 11, 2011 at 9:59am

I think that the unpredictableness of alopecia is one of the hardest things to deal with. I am sorry about the new patch it is a bummer.

Comment by Michelle on February 11, 2011 at 7:54pm

I got my first bald spot a year ago at age 32. Now, I have several spots. It's discouraging to find new spots. So far, I've been able to hide my spots by styling my hair a certain way--bobby pins have helped a lot. But, I have a new spot right in the front and with all the new spots coming...I'm not sure what to do.

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