Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on July 27, 2011 at 4:13pm

Yes, people sometimes feel that they can say whatever they want. I have developed a "I don't care" filter for those folks and seriously just let their comments go. I see it more as a reflection of them then of me.

Comment by Erika Vincent on August 2, 2011 at 12:31am

I generally tend to make sarcastic comments like "Wow, you're very observant" or "Oh really? I didn't notice I was bald." It usually works, people end up feeling bad. Sometimes I get annoyed when people ask me why I'm bald, so on rare occasions the conversation goes like this:
Stranger: "Why are you bald?"
Me: "Why are you nosey?"

But my favourite is when kids are like "Mom she has no hair!" and I just look at my mom and say "Mom that kid has no manners!"

Comment by Sanfra22 on August 31, 2011 at 1:43am

Hi Ericka,
I had a primary school teacher that used to say to us "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." I am continuously surprised how grown up people can't follow this simple advice.

You didn't ask to have alopecia. You also didn't ask for their "smart" comments. So I wouldn't even acknowledge it.
Take care!!

Comment by Ericka on August 31, 2011 at 10:46am

Hi Sanfra22:

This is a new experience. Normally strangers never say anything to me but with wearing the bald head this is totally different. I walked by one man the other day and he just starting laughing. I did not know what to say, so I just ignored him and kept walking. That was embarrassing because his laughter caused more attention.

Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on August 31, 2011 at 11:50am

I truly beleive it is a control tactic. Whether they believe you are doing this on purpose or believe that if you are sick you "should" cover your head. The comments are meant to hurt and put us back in line. Most of us do it, whether it is a kids with his pants down to his knees, a young girl with lots of tattoos, a woman with kids who are not begin quite enough. If we truly believe we should have the freedom to do what we are doing, then we have to fight past the comments and not let them control us. Eventually they really do just roll of our shoulders. It also reminds me to keep my comments to myself ;)

Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on August 31, 2011 at 12:03pm

I just read the quote and thought it was fitting:

"People will hate you, rate you, shake you, and break you. But how strong you stand is what makes you."
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Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on August 31, 2011 at 1:35pm

And this is one of my husband's favorites by E.E. Cummings

"To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best day and night to make you like everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight and never stop fighting."

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