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Is it a fetish or mere fascination? It may pay to find out
I met the bald woman of my dreams on MySpace.com in the spring of 2007, and I can't tell you how grateful I am that she didn't summarily dismiss me as some creepy dude who simply had a bald fetish.
When I saw her photos on MySpace at the time, I thought she was as fine as they come and I let her know it. Yes, I knew she was bald due to alopecia areata because that was one of the first things her profile stated and she was bald in all her photos. However, it didn't matter one bit: She had me at hello and I had no intention of ever letting us say goodbye.
One of the reasons--certainly not the only reason!--I was so fascinated by her physical appearance is that she was bald and beautiful. Not bald but beautiful, but bald AND beautiful. I mean bald looked as good on this woman as hair does on Rapunzel! But even more importantly, when I shared my feelings about this with her, she received the compliment as a compliment rather than automatically rejected it as faux pas flattery from some sicko who gets off on the follicular dyplasia of unsuspecting women.
Well, to make a long, enthralling and never-ending love story short, Cheryl, the co-founder of Alopecia World, and I ended up dating long distance for two years and eventually married on April 18, 2009! Loving and being loved by her are two of the best things that have ever happened to me, but none of it would have been possible if she had thought it was impossible for a man to love a woman not in spite of her being bald, but because she is bald.
Now, I would be remiss if I didn't mention that Cheryl is a person who loves being bald. She didn't feel this way for the first few years of her life as an alopecian. But she grew to love not just her baldness, but also herself as a woman who was bald due to alopecia. These days, I like to think that her decision to so embrace herself eventually brought both of us unspeakable joy!
As noted in Psychology Today's Diagnosis Dictionary, despite the fact that "there is a degree of fetishistic arousal in most normal individuals who find particular bodily features attractive," there are fetishists who depersonalize and objectify people because of their physical attributes. In fact, a true fetishist is so aroused by, say, a woman's bald head that "it interferes with normal sexual or social functioning." The fetishist looks upon the woman's bald head as though it is an orgasmic talisman and thus treats her like an impersonal object of obsession rather than a personal subject of genuine affection.
Nevertheless, the mere fact that someone compliments your bald head is not sufficient cause for paranoia, panic, or repulsion. As Cheryl and my relationship demonstrates, it very well might be worth your time and energy to patiently but also prudently get to know what else the complimenter has to offer as well as say to you. Who knows, such openness may also bring you face-to-face with the serendipitous love of your life.
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Comment by rj, Co-founder on October 24, 2013 at 9:57pm
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@Daniel - The fact that my wife is also "brave" as well as "gorgeous" is why I admire her so. Of course, her beautiful mind, spirit, and attitude only augments her pulchritude. :-)
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@Mindy and GROWCHEMOME - You're welcome. And thanks for the positive feedback.
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Comment by Pat on October 28, 2013 at 9:31pm
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"pulchritude"...now that's a word worth having in my arsenal :-) btw yes I believe there is a line between fetish and preference just as a person may prefer blondes to brunettes or visa versa. This gagging, tying up and shaving women is demeaning and if I was part of a video unbeknown to me that portrayed such things I would be as upset as Mary.
rj you fell in love with a whole person, not just because Cheryl had a bald head and that's the difference.
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Klaipeda, I really don’t think this is the site for recommending a porn site. Inappropriate when the discussion is about bald fetish.
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Spell check! I mean Klaiz
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Comment by Ted Michael Morgan on July 13, 2022 at 12:26pm
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I am now an old man who has to permentaly wear a catheter. I am not able to have sexual intercourse of to masturbation. About the time this thread began, I stopped looking at photographs of women with alopecia because I believed to do so was to exploit them because of my fetish for bald headed women.
It really upset me that I was turned on by women with alopecia because those women lacked control over that important aspect of their lives; If someone had at the time not minded my lust for bald women, the would have been fine but for me to seek out women with alopecia would have been exploitive.
I figured I was not the one to settle my problem with not wanting to exploit someone. I hope everyone gets to be sexual in their lives but without becoming an object of someone's exploitation of their physical status. it gets confusing.
My former wife had her own fetish that I let her enjoy and in which I took part to the extent that it came to be part of my love map. I never imposed my fetish on her-she did like bald men and eventually matted one, I think. I did not let her shave me and she never asked or seemed to want me to be bald
As a society, we have different desires and we easily take offense at those of other people. It's a matter of ambiguity and a matter of balance. I have communicated with Cheryl for years. I like and respect her as well as appreciate her kindness.
anyway I do not browse her and do not tour photos and videos here. I just type in alopecia fetish a few minutes ago and got directed to this very old thread.
Nowadays, I am quite elderly and incapacitated though even in old age and in the state of being no longer able to function sexually, desire still remains or at least the echo of it.
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I am now an old man who has to permentaly wear a catheter. I am not able to have sexual intercourse of to masturbation. About the time this thread began, I stopped looking at photographs of women with alopecia because I believed to do so was to exploit them because of my fetish for bald headed women.
It really upset me that I was turned on by women with alopecia because those women lacked control over that important aspect of their lives; If someone had at the time not minded my lust for bald women, the would have been fine but for me to seek out women with alopecia would have been exploitive.
I figured I was not the one to settle my problem with not wanting to exploit someone. I hope everyone gets to be sexual in their lives but without becoming an object of someone's exploitation of their physical status. it gets confusing.
My former wife had her own fetish that I let her enjoy and in which I took part to the extent that it came to be part of my love map. I never imposed my fetish on her-she did like bald men and eventually matted one, I think. I did not let her shave me and she never asked or seemed to want me to be bald
As a society, we have different desires and we easily take offense at those of other people. It's a matter of ambiguity and a matter of balance. I have communicated with Cheryl for years. I like and respect her as well as appreciate her kindness.
anyway I do not browse her and do not tour photos and videos here. I just type in alopecia fetish a few minutes ago and got directed to this very old thread.
Nowadays, I am quite elderly and incapacitated though even in old age and in the state of being no longer able to function sexually, desire still remains or at least the echo of it.
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I See typos but I will leave them rather than struggle to correct the posts
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