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Comment by Susan P aka DGADBS on June 11, 2010 at 12:34pm

OK, move to the side people, hot bald woman comin through!!! I just went to the drug store (bald by the way, yeah!) and got some bling for the occasion :) Woot Woot
Man, I wish I joined this site years ago, the added confidence and strength I get from my friends here is a Godsend! Cheers my friends :)

Comment by Norm on June 11, 2010 at 11:58am

Well, I do ... any other takers?? ;)

DGADBSue, let us know how it went at the wedding - do whatever you feel happy with, including pushing y'self a little! I expect to hear you've been signing autographs, OK??

N xx

Comment by Mary on June 11, 2010 at 10:50am

Susan, I just saw this blog for the first time. I can SO relate to what you're going through. It's very similar to my journey. In my first year bald (2008), I attended a family wedding, two graduations, and a theater event with relatives, and tried to wear a wig or scarf to all of them.

All the events were during warm months, and each time I experienced sweat dripping from under the wig (or scarf, or hat), extreme discomfort, eventual removal of the covering, followed by public crying....

Finally, I realized that I had a CHOICE between being emotionally uncomfortable being seen bald, OR being physically miserable from the heat of a wig or scarf. I decided I could better deal with being bald. I couldn't change the physical reality of the heat my body produces or the way my scalp generates heat and needs to be cooled by contact with air. I COULD change the way I felt about being seen bald.

It isn't the choice for everyone, but it was the only way for me. I got USED to the emotional discomfort of being seen bald...now it's not uncomfortable, it's just who I am. I NEVER would've gotten used to the physical heat and discomfort of covering up.

Now I'm even proud of my uniqueness, but mostly I don't think about it. My T-shirt says it all to those who sometimes stare: "Yes, I'm bald...get over it!"

My brother had a problem with it for awhile, but he finally understood when I described the extreme heat I feel when my head is covered. His scalp gets very hot, too, so he got that it just isn't physically possible for me to cover up.

When my eyebrows went a couple of months after losing my hair, I was really upset. I think losing them was harder - I had very distinctive, full eyebrows. But, I got tattoos before all the brow hairs were gone, so the basic shape could be preserved. Now I put a little brow powder on to darken the tattoo (which acts as a guide), and then some liquid sealer, and I'm fine. My eyebrows came back last year for awhile, but they're gone again now. You never know!

Hang in there.
Mary

Comment by Susan P aka DGADBS on June 11, 2010 at 9:32am

Why thank you Lisa-Lynn, so nice of you to say. I'm going to have a great time and hope to have some pictures to post :)

Comment by Lisa-Lynn Marini on June 11, 2010 at 8:47am

Hello Susan,
I'm not good at responding to blogs so bear with me :)
I just want to say that my heart goes out to you! I think you show great courage.
You will do what you feel is comfortable for you on the wedding day, whether it be hat on or hat off, you're BEAUTIFUL either way!!
have a wonderful time at the wedding :)

Comment by Susan P aka DGADBS on June 10, 2010 at 6:57pm

Thanks Carmen, I feel like a have my second wind and I can get through this.

Thanks for the chin up guys!

Comment by Carmen Dayhoff on June 10, 2010 at 6:11pm

omg..Norm! I have never used hair to stuff pillows with, but that is fresh and funny.

Susan Peters, I agree with Susan. She said it right. You go there and be confidant! You are who you are and just be that!!

Have fun at the wedding.
Carmen

Comment by Susan P aka DGADBS on June 10, 2010 at 1:46pm

Your too funny Norm.
From DGADBS :)

Comment by Norm on June 10, 2010 at 12:49pm

Sue's right.... er, just a minute, too many "Susans" here! OK, Sue 1 (you'll be Worried Wedding Sue, or WWSue for short), Sue 2 (that's Angry Mad Sue, or AMSue) is spot-on when she says you shouldn't do the worrying for someone else. Yeah, it's great to have empathy, but not when it drives you despair like this. It's yer Bruv's problem - let him deal with it. What if it was a leg you were missing? Bet you couldn't cover that up with a hat :)
Try being DGADBSue instead (Don't Give A Damn Baldy Sue). Sure, start off with a hat, but only if it makes YOU feel better.... ditch it whenever YOU feel like, not when you think others feel like. Like I said earlier, most peeps don't care!

But AMSue, I disagree with you about hair being useless. I've found it's really good for stuffing pillows with :)

Comment by Susan P aka DGADBS on June 10, 2010 at 11:37am

WOW, I needed that Susan!
Your right! I have enough to deal with on a day to day basis, last night I went to an auction with my parents and there were tons of people there and I was worried that my parents would be embarrassed to be seen with me. I know I shouldn't be worrying about how others are going to react and worrying about how it will make them feel, ditto Geesh! Let me re-phrase that, I'm not going to give a crap that I'm bald and to hell with them if they can't handle it. I feel stronger now, thanks.

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