Comment by Pat on June 15, 2011 at 11:40pm

My daughter was diagnosed age 19, my son age 28 - they think his was brought on by drugs and there is a link there but depression runs in my husband's family plus my own and I believe my grandfather had some mental illness undiagnosed as well as my hb's grandmother. My daughter was abused by her uncle as a child and I believe it stemmed from that. If we have a predisposition it comes out when the situation rears its ugly head. Yes it's been difficult not only for us but their lives have been severely affected by it.

Comment by Autumn Leaves on June 16, 2011 at 8:34am

Hmmm thats quite awful... sorry about asking just my mum was diagnosed at a youngish age and wanted to see if it was similiar for your children.... What drugs where they taking if you dont mind me asking? I am sorry about your daughter being abused... hurts everyone when its a family member i have had them sort of experiences before... And many people have mental illnesses that dont have it diagnosed which is pretty shit bbecause it makes it harder to see if the illness is heredetary and what the chances are that you can develop it... It is fantastic though that you and your husband worked through it together and helped your children... I think that in its self can improve the condition i wish i had the patience with my mum but its just much easier to stay away and only come back when it is neccesary if you know what i mean :)

Comment by BTB (John) on June 20, 2011 at 4:04am

With you all the way Autumn you got a family just like mine was it can get better but its not easy. I wish I had come to an understating of my situation as early as you have. Would have got my stuff together a lot earlier, we all have the right to feel our feelings and I love your honesty to share so openly it takes a lot of courage to do so. Well done John

Comment by Pat on June 20, 2011 at 4:44am

Autumn, with my son's drug taking he was on crystal meth and mj, but the crystal meth really took him over the edge. In his own words he took "copious" amounts! We have tried to hang in there with him, helped him out many times etc but now he has turned violent and we prefer not to be around him anymore. He is in denial about his illness and has stopped taking his meds. It's really a very painful situation but we are not willing victims of his moods anymore. Sometimes, like you say, you get to the point where you have to stay away from the person because they continue to hurt you and affect your life so much. My son is in his early 40s now. Lives in a shed, works off and on and has alienated every family member he has including his own son who is 13 today!! So yes I know exactly what you mean.

Comment by Autumn Leaves on June 20, 2011 at 6:53pm

Thanks alot john i suppose it was quite hard but sometimes you just need to like get it out and i prefer typing it out then saying it face to face with someone if you know what i mean :)

Comment by Autumn Leaves on June 20, 2011 at 7:10pm

Pat that sounds ezpecially hard! wow crystal meth is a harsh drug ive tried a few drugs before but never had that... its also bloody expensive... I havent had a drug problem but i smoke weed probably to much to be honest... and yeah my mum did the runaway thing for about 11 years on or off i dont remember her much before the age of about 10 and then i moved to England and waited for 6 months until she deciided to pop by because i had no existing family living in Australia apart from my dad who i was taken off... Then i met the scary family whom i was isolated from and thankful no matter how bad my young years where... Every single one of them has something going on whether its some form of mental illness, excessive drinking or un acceptance of their life... Quite depressing, i hate them all because when i came over they left me with a derranged Aunty who was worse then mother dearest.... Sucks big time and i can only say sometimes youve got to protect yourself by staying away and i know i will be hated but i have already made my decision and im leaving when i can afford it!
Sorry that was a big family rant!
Going back to alopecia my patch on the front of my head has clear hair growing so feel a bit possitive

Comment by Pat on June 21, 2011 at 1:21am

I hope your plans work out for you Autumn, sounds like you've been very unhappy with your carers....and that you've been more of a carer to them! Hey so glad your patch in front of your head is having some regrowth...fantastic!

Comment by Autumn Leaves on June 21, 2011 at 5:56pm

Thanks i hope they do too! And i am happy about my hair too but my head feels really itchy... Is your head supposed to be itchy?

Comment by Pat on June 21, 2011 at 10:19pm

Mine usually itched when I was losing hair but it may work the othr way too! Is it itchy where there is regrowth?

Comment by Autumn Leaves on June 22, 2011 at 4:15pm

I dunno Its was itchy when it was falling out and its still itchy now... I dunno if its growing back i think my head is pretending LOL

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