Comment by May on November 5, 2008 at 11:02pm

Coming to terms with this condition is something I dont think comes easy. Its scary and it hurts in ways hard to explain, you are not alone with what you are going through. The best advice I have been given is most people are born bald or close to it! Its not your hair that makes you beautiful, its you inside, try to stick in there girl, ill scream with you. I feel some of your pain, this condition is unfair

Comment by Kath on November 6, 2008 at 3:35am

hang in there - i think that this is the worst time. Things definatley do get better over time and we all learn to deal with it in our own way, You get to the point that you think "well it is only hair" and things could be a lot worse. Even better when my boss says to me the other day, after a very stressful week "she is almost tearing her hair out over this" - if only they knew I had no hair anyway! You even get to brag to the guys in your life that you have less hair then them as theirs starts to fall out! Keep smiling and take comfort in the people around you who care

Comment by elvira delgado on November 6, 2008 at 2:46pm

HELLO CHELSEA
I BEEN WITH ALOPECIA FOR ABOUT THREE YEARS NOW I FIRST NOTICE A SMALL CIRCLE ON THE BACK OF MY HEAD THEN ONE ON THE FRONT WHERE I COULDN'T HIDE IT WAS HARSH SEEN SOME HAIRS LEFT HERE AND SOME THERE AS I BRUSH HANDFULS WILL JUST FALL OUT SO I SHAVE MY HEAD AT FIRST I USE HATS BUT
I WILL GET STUPID QUESTIONS LIKE IF I HAD CANCER I VISIT MANY DOCTORS TRY MANY TREATMENTS
FROM CORTISONE SHOT ON THE HEAD TO AROMA THERAPY,ROGAIN,OILS, THYROID PILLS WELL NOTHING WORK FOR ME I FEELD SO DEPRESS I JUST STOP GOING TO DOCTOR'S I GET NO ANSWERS NO RESULTS I BEEN
USING A WIG I JUST TRY TO LIVE AS NORMAL AS I CAN FOR MY SON I DONT GET TO DO MANY THING I USE TO DO LIKE RUNNING, SWIMMING BECAUSE OF THE WIG I THING IF IT FALL OUT PEOPLE WILL FREAK OUT
MY EYE BROWS DID FELL OUT THEY COME AND GO I USE A BROWN PENCIL TO MAKE A THIN LINE ALSO I WEAR LIQUID EYE LINER SO THE MISSING LASHES WOULD BE SO NOTICEABLE I THOUGHT ABOUT A TATTOO
BUT I DON'T KNOW IF THE COLOR WILL FADE AWAY OR CHANGE WE''LL I HAVE TO GO NOW NICE TALKING TO YOU I CAN UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL .
BYE NOW HOPE WE CAN BE FRIENDS.

Comment by diem on November 7, 2008 at 2:02am

Hey Chelsea,
I remember going through what you're feeling right now, although its been years since I've had any hair or eyelashes. I know it seems hard and painful but it will get better, you're beautiful with or without hair. You seem like a strong girl and going on here to talk about how you feel only proves that.

Comment by Mandy on November 7, 2008 at 12:59pm

Well you hit the nail on the head...it's about acceptance. Until you accept it and make peace with it yourself, relationships with others may be hard. It is your attitude that affects others. I know how hard it is, but hang in there and work hard and finding yourself and loving yourself for who you are. If you don't care about your alopecia, others won't care either.

Comment by Vanessa on November 9, 2008 at 2:19am

Hi Chelsea, I lost all of my hair - including my eyebrows and eyelashes - just about three months ago. That was the hardest time for me. I know how you're feeling right now (I too had tons of hair and long eyelashes - what the heck is going on!?). But let me tell you that I'm feeling a lot better now and so will you. I wear different wigs and make up now (a big change for me, a hippy chick who never really wore make up!). I thought I'd never be able to use an eyebrow pencil without looking like a clown, but it's really not that difficult. I don't wear false eyelashes - only eyeliner, and no one notices a thing (I work with little children who would certainly ask!, and any time I do tell someone about my alopecia they're completely surprised). In fact I'm finding I get more compliments on my looks now then I did before I lost my hair! Now that I am used to putting on my hair and makeup I just do it, and then I get on with enjoying all the other things that are still great about my life. I'm sure you'll figure out what works for you and you'll be ok.

Comment by amanda~ on November 27, 2008 at 7:59pm

Hi Chelsea,
There is no one on here who's going to say "it's easy" no one! However, myself and many others can likely tell you (as seen above in all the comments to you) that it does get easier as time goes on. Everyone's case is different, but everyone on here understands what you're feeling. I know exactly what you're feeling. I don't think there's a "solution" but I do know that we're here for you!

Take care of yourself and remember you'll deal with it all in your own way.

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