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Relationships, why can't I find one?
Sure I'm only 18 years old and have most of my hair but when I really think about it, what girl would want to date a guy who has bald spots. I mean mine are covered but there's others out there who don't have them covered or have a third of their eyebrow left. It certainly keeps me up at night wondering if I'll have one. Actually does more than keep me up at night, sadly. So my question is where do I start? How do I go about bringing up my alopecia? Or is literally every guy and girl shallow that they can't see past it? Please respond and help me and others out!
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Check out the excellent "Third Date Rule" written by Debbi Fuller a few years ago.
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Comment by Tallgirl on August 28, 2013 at 3:17pm
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Talk to the men in the GROUPS on this site who have been through this before. Just scroll through the different GROUPS, and join a few! You will finds YEARS of wisdom and suggestions!
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Comment by Connor013 on August 28, 2013 at 3:55pm
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I have been and I am in some of them but most of it about how the shallow guy/ girl didn't like them cause of the disorder! Honestly I'd rather date someone who has the disorder. They (we) understand the pains and obstacles that comes with alopecia.
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Comment by butta on August 28, 2013 at 4:01pm
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i have the same questions what guy wants to date a female with no hair im completely bad my left eyebrow and lashes are gone will a guy look past my bald head and see my beautiful face
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Exactly my point! I don't care if you completely hairless! Just as long as they like me for me and I know for a fact with this disorder being my "lesson" in life I know I can't see past any disorder.
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i have had guys stop talking to me because im bald i wear a scarf on my head nd always say when is the right time to let them know i have alopecia its very hard trying to date with this disorder
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Yea I feel your pain. I have my hair on my head but have some spots that are covered but my eyebrows are so weird that I can't even make eye contact to any girl because I know if I try talking to one they will stare at my disorder and I have been called by other girls behind my back that I'm "that kid who has cancer that doesn't kill". Like WTF! I want to find someone I really do and asking myself if I will be alone or not in the future is exactly what keeps me up at night.
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i know exactly how you feel my eyebrows are crazy weird nd my lashes are gone on my left eye but im starting to tell myself that im different and different is good
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Yea well who knows :/ I just wish people weren't shallow...
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yea i know some ppl cant look past that
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Comment by Jackie on August 28, 2013 at 4:41pm
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Not everyone is shallow :) A lot of people don't care about that appearance stuff, I certainly don't, my friends don't, it's just about finding that person that looks passed all of that. About the "bringing it up" bit, I would say wait till it's a couple of months into the relationship. Don't just drop the bomb haha I mean, I barely told my closest friend, and I've known her since I was in 6th grade. You're so nice & easy to talk too, nothing else should matter, especially something as dumb as alopecia. (I mean, I know you hate Honey Boo Boo, but I look passed that. Not everyone understands her humor~) Anyway, my point is, people can be understanding, not everyone, but some are. Just find that girl that you like talking too, trust her, etc. :) I hope I helped?! I tried to tap into my deep, intelligent brain lol it's been a long day.
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