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Comment by Brian on May 11, 2013 at 9:21pm

Confidence in your appearance is the first step. I know that this far easier said than done. People get attached to their identity with hair. When the hair is gone, so goes that identity. An identity that was taken away without warning and without choice. Resentfulness sets in as does a whole flurry of other negative emotions. Losing the hair is a physical trait that's gone. Because hair is one of the primary ways that women mold their identities, without the hair it's difficult to set up a new bald identity as society is not very accepting of baldness in women. I personally have no problem with baldness in women or men.

Wigs can help, but they cause their own problems (i.e., securing them, finding one that looks real, comfort, etc). However, women with hair have worn wigs for ages for many reasons. Some like to change their looks frequently based on their moods. Others prefer not styling their own hair. There are many reasons for wearing wigs. Wigs aren't really the problem as it's socially acceptable for women to wear a wig. Any woman wearing a wig would never be considered in 'drag'. With or without hair, if a wig enhances your appearance, go for it. 

The emotions of losing the hair can lead to negative thoughts and emotions which are easy to dwell upon. Instead, you should focus on the positives in your life such as your health, your relationships, your friends, your family, your career and the things you have. Focus on the things you can control and that really matter to you. Basically, don't let your hair loss put your life on hold. Once you let hair loss control you as a victim, this leads you to this emotional place you're in now.  Instead, take back control over your life. Your friends like you for who you are. Start to like yourself the way you are now so you can lead yourself to a positive place where you can be happy, healthy and feel good about the way you look with or without hair.

One of the first ways to learn to ignore what other people say. Only what you think matters, everyone else's opinion is secondary and irrelevant. If someone has a problem with your appearance, that's their problem and not yours. If you know you look good, their opinion is irrelevant to your life. If this person continues to impose their negative comments upon you, tell them that's their problem and to keep their comments to themselves. Confidence in your appearance goes a long way. If you know you look good and you show everyone else that confidence, you'll rarely negative get comments no matter what you do.

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