Comment by Tallgirl on January 16, 2012 at 1:00am

Well, I have synthetic wigs only held on by the elastic, and after all these years, it doesn't bother me. The head toughens up, I think. I don't even use the adhesives. At night, I wear a scarf or cap if it is chilly (nothing in summer on top). I have had AA, AU and now AT. I have had years where the hair has grown back (not now). And, I think I look okay in my wigs. It takes time.

Comment by cindy Babs on January 16, 2012 at 8:25am

It will get better with time. Its a process. Based on how you have dealt thus far I believe you will feel and b better sooner rather than later. Even grieving for ur ex will take time. I think you'll love ur fw too. Sending you a smile. Make it a great day!

Comment by Ben Lainhart on January 16, 2012 at 2:42pm

My heart goes out to you:)

Comment by Ktownnana on January 16, 2012 at 5:26pm

Hang in there! I've had so many compliments on my synthetic wigs--people tell me they can't believe I wear a wig. I am now engaged to be married and my fiancee says my being bald doesn't bother him one bit. I am truly blessed and pray that you will meet someone very special in your life who will feel the same way. (((hugs)))

Comment by Erika on January 16, 2012 at 7:04pm

I shaved my head end of november and i hear you, some days you are proud, and some days i just wanted to cry, and wish i had my hair back, why me why me why me. but you know its been almost two months now and its so much easier. Sometimes people look at me weird and i think, hmm do the know me? then i realize they are looking at me because im bald! But its getting a lot easier with time to say they dont matter!! I hope it gets easier for you to :) good luck!

Comment by Kathryn on January 16, 2012 at 7:17pm

Congratulations on shaving your head! When I shaved mine, I felt somehow liberated because I felt like I finally took control over something that had control over me for so long. It sounds like you are taking many healthy steps to deal with your situation. You're right in that there will still be bad days ahead, but they do become less frequent. Continue to do things that are good for you and stay healthy! Even the "big cold city" of NY experiences spring and summer!

Comment by Tony on January 18, 2012 at 1:47pm

My daughter is 19. She is away at college in a big city. At home or at college when she is around her closest friends she now feels comfortable going without a wig but when she goes out in public she will wear one. She met a boy this past semester and filled us in with as few details as any teen could and still indicate that she had a boyfriend. Anyway, she came home in mid December on school break and a few days later mentions that the boyfriend would like to come north to the house and meet us. We say fine of course and the young man comes to the door one evening. He rings the bell and we let him in and proceed to call up to her that the kid was here. She comes down the stairs; no wig and greets him. My wife and I look at each other in shock....Anyway, a short time later my wife has an opportunity to be alone with my daughter and inquired about the bald look around the boyfriend and my daughter said if he couldn't accept her being bald, she wouldn't go out with him......I was never so proud.

We have learned so much from the entire Alopecia experience as a family dealing with this. I am very proud of my daughter and how she has handled this while being away at college, having schoolwork and all sorts of things going on in her life. I realize so much of any experience is your attitude and your outlook....and so I would say to you that you are the same person with or without hair. Try and keep your spirits up and maintain a positive outlook and good things will occur in time....and some lucky guy will be fortunate to be with a beautiful young lady such as yourself. I also have a son who is in his 20's and confided to me that he has discussed the female bald look with his friends and all have said that it didn't bother them and a couple even found it very appealing. Have a great day!

Comment by countrysongbird on January 20, 2012 at 5:52pm

Gabriela, you will see a brighter day. You will even find love...the kind of love that will come to know, cherish, desire and even protect your beautiful bald head (forever) as
'his and yours'. Love...and I mean 'LOVE' doesn't care if you have hair or not.
You are a beauty! Don't you doubt it! But you've got to know it for yourself!
You hang on, Gabriela. You'll see! You're only just getting started!

Comment by traci on January 21, 2012 at 3:51pm

Gabriela,

Thank you for sharing your struggles and your journey. I know it seems like there's no light at the end of the tunnel, but have heart--you will get past your shadows and find something to celebrate. When I first shaved my head, I thought it was an admittance of defeat, but I've learned to see it as acceptance of who I am. I am someone with alopecia, as are you, and that should be celebrated because I think you are courageous, bold, and beautiful. I don't know if you're still in NYC, but I just moved here and would love to meet up. You're not alone in this, and you've got a great community of people here at AW to support you. I know I'm rooting for you!

Cheers,
Traci

Comment by Gabriela Gonzalez on February 18, 2012 at 1:44am

Hi everyone, thank you sooo much for your beautiful comments. It is truly amazing to find soo much support here. It has been a couple of weeks since I shaved my head and although I have my ups and downs it feels like it is slowly getting easier to handle.

I don't know what else to say but that I am very grateful for all of you, your support and encouraging words bring tears to my eyes, a smile to my lips and a warmth to my heart. I hope you all are doing well, and that you are thriving in life with or without your hair. =)

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