i just recently came back from visiting my parents. i was a little self concious about my parents seeing me for the first time bald so i put on a hat before getting off the plane. as i was waiting for my dad to drive around to pick me up, i saw him and waved. he looked at me and drove right by! i called him on his cell and told him to drive around again because he missed me. so at the house my dad told me to take off my hat so he could see me. he told me i dont look bad with a bald head and that he might need to join me if his hair keeps falling out.
now my mom is another story. she did not like it at all and brought in several scarfs and even some of her wigs for me to try on to see how they would look on me! i politely told her no thank you. she was not happy. she was clearly uncomfortable being around me bald, so in her presence(not my dad's) i put on a hat. i hate the fact that i wore the hat to make someone else feel comfortable. she asked my dad to tell me to cover up because "it looks so bad!" since i shaved my head that was the first time i ever cried about it. i wasnt crying because i was bald, but because i was hurt that the one person who i thought would understand (my mom is bald from alopecia) didnt.
i told my mom all of the reasons why i chose not to wear a wig (other than at work)and she just blew it off. in retrospect, i understand her feelings and actions. i am a reminder to her of herself. i look like my mom. she was not in a place come to terms with her own hairloss.