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With the upcoming Christmas holidays fastly approaching comes the added stress of shopping, Christmas parties, cards to send out, and schedules to coordinate so we can all spend some time together. In addition to the upcoming holiday, I have been at odds with one of my sisters. Despite our family's efforts to help her, she was homeless for 2 months. Now she is mad at me, over doing the right thing...without going into too many details, for telling the truth, and we have parted ways.
My step mom, and (another) sister, & her 3 kids are soon likely to loose the roof over their head also now. Everyone is hurting from this recession, not to mention we have two kids in college, and have had many house repairs this year, so we cant help them, nor can any of the local organizations that would normally issue help. It's hard to see those you love suffer too.
I've been having headaches every day for some time now..probably the stress?
Also, with my Alopecia, I have been having these dry skin patches, sorta like scabs/bumps, that come up on my head, and with it itching all the time, I scratch. (One of the things I do when my nerves are bothering me also) My head is so sore to touch, brush, wash, anything. It hurts.
Again...lot's of stress.
One of my friends from church passed away Sunday, so I will have her funeral to attend on Thursday. It was very hard to loose such a wonderful lady. My husband would always help the ladies in and out of their car on Sunday mornings. He is going to be a pall-bearer at the funeral.
I am very lucky to have such a wonderful husband who is always willing to help out anytime needed. I stay so tired all the time, and he picks up the slack, without me even asking!
ON A LIGHTER NOTE:
I was watching this young girl on Saturday when we were out Christmas shopping. We had stopped long enough to eat lunch at a local restaurant, and it was a very, very windy day. I watched her as she twirled around in the wind, arms outstretched, enjoying her long hair blowing in her face, and all over. She looked so peaceful, like she didn't have a care in the world. I was jealous. For the first time since my Alopecia, I found myself holding my hand over my head out in that wind, in order to hold my hair down, to try and keep my bald spots hidden.
Overall, I have been doing much better. I have had some regrowth that has now gotten some color back to it. I even spoke with my mom's next door neighbor the other day. She was outside doing some yard work..she told me she has circular bald patches also. I explained to her that I have Alopecia Areata. She had never heard of it before. She shared with me she wears wigs most days, but had just a hat on that day. Though she was embarassed to show me her head, I did show her mine, and shared with her a bit about Alopecia. I DO hope she will go to a doctor soon to get it checked out.
Amazing to me, people living with Alopecia, and they don't even know it! I am more than happy to help raise awareness, and I hope that I was even able to help out a fellow Alopecian :)
I, too have family members who have more troubles than I can help. Going to Al-Anon and CODA meetings introduced me to many others who feel put-upon to solve troubles caused by one TO ONESELF from addictions. The meetings tell us we didn't cause it, can't control it, can't cure it. Our family members and friends put THEMSELVES in their predicaments by choices and poor planning, refusals to get clean/sober/educated/trained (even in menial jobs). They refuse to sell items, downsize, go to the doctor, apply for unemployment or welfare, and refuse to walk or use bicycles to get places. They refuse church assistance or used clothing when cold. How stupid is that? They take advantage of anyone sucker enough to give up his/her OWN income, belongings, food, savings, time, home and safety...plus sanity and spirit...to hand over to them what they should do/get/be/learn for themselves. Tend to your children. Give your kin the addresses and phone numbers of ministers, welfare, Salvation Army, homeless shelters, EDD, etc. Tell them to buck up and be the grown-ups they need to be for their OWN families. You need to take care of your family with the money and smarts you earned for YOURSELF. You can wish them luck, blessings, and tell them you will pray for them...but they have to fish for themselves instead of eating all your fish and time. A care basket might be nice for Christmas, but watch out...I say this because I know where cash advances to help an addict ends up: taking away my own ability to now eat, pay for gas for work, and travel because of monthly payments on credit cards.
Im like Aimee...I had hair at my most stressful times, lost it when i was calm. Stress is bad in general, but I cant see how it affects alopecia, even though Doctors like to use this excuse constantly. Cant make things better though. I get really stressed this time of yr too, worried Im not getting enough for people, or ill forget someone.
Thanks all!! I am looking forward to Christmas, and time with my children, mom, and husband. Anything else is just a bonus, I guess. As far as the stresses, I am going to try to avoid them, and count my blessings. I have so many, and I will be trying to put my focus on them, and the One who gives those blessings :)
Wishing you all immeasurable blessing this holiday season, wherever you are.
Here's to 2011...I'm with you Lois! Thanks to all of you for being one of those many blessings in my life :) Hugs!
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