Hi,

  1. I have Female Androgenic Alopecia.  It has been four years since I was diagnosed with Androgenic Alopecia.  I have tried everything and my hair is still thinning. I had PRP and did laser treatment. I am on minoxidil and I take 250 mg spironolactone everyday.  I had very thick hair so I am able to cover my thinning hair for now.  About two months ago I started to lose 300-350 hairs a day.  There is no end in sight.  My hair is just falling out everywhere.  I was wondering if anybody had this happen to them.  It sounds like my alopecia is getting worse and I will lose most of my hair or all of it soon.

I am devastated!  Please let me know if there is anyone or if they heard of anyone in this situation, and what was their outcome.  Did they keep on losing their hair until they needed a wig?  It is torture not knowing if I will wake up one morning and see my scalp.  If there is anyway that anyone can help, please let me know.

Thank you so much.

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Comment by John on June 19, 2021 at 12:00am

If you lose all your hair it isn't the end of the world.  I have Alopecia Universalis.  I wake up every morning and see my whole scalp.  It's fine.  Stressing about it is the worst thing you could do.

Comment by SabineTawni on June 19, 2021 at 4:57pm

John, You're kidding, right?  Telling someone not to feel stress about losing their hair is like telling someone not to breathe.  It appears Jude (Female Androgenic Alopecia) is a woman.  If so, it is completely different for a female than it is for a male.  I am not saying it is easy for a male, but it is definitely much more difficult for a woman.  I also have Alopecia Universalis.  I am very stressed and very sad about it.  I always will be and refuse to pretend otherwise.  I'm glad I feel that way, since it is the way I am suppose to feel about it.  How do I handle it?  I try to make that sadness and stress over my AU a PART of my life, not the WHOLE of my life!  I'm sorry and I don't mean to appear rude, but your response to Jude sounds a bit flippant to me.  

Comment by John on June 19, 2021 at 10:24pm

No, I'm not kidding at all.  I don't think encouraging someone to keep things in perspective is flippant.  I don't agree that it is "completely different" for a woman.  I care about how I look, and I was also stressed when my hair started falling out in weird shaped patches all over my head, including my eye brows.  The most helpful thing I could have told myself if I could travel back in time would be exactly what I told Jude:  It isn't the end of the world.  Worrying about it is only going to make it worse.  The fear and insecurity is by far the worst part and if you can get past that (and you can and will) it becomes utterly trivial. 

If you are very sad and very stressed about AU, that sucks.  Being sad and stressed is awful.  I don't want to appear flippant or condescending.  I'm just saying it doesn't have to be that way.

Comment by Anyanwu Chinyere Oby on June 29, 2021 at 5:20am

I really do understand how you feel right now Jude, this was also my fear when I started experiencing AA, but you just have to be strong and understand that there is much more to life than hair. You just need to have an open mind and a caring community like this to talk to. Embrace the change, one step at a time and there are many options to what you can do. Wigs,Caps or better still BE BALD AND PROUD.5

Comment by Jude on June 30, 2021 at 8:04pm

Anyanwu,

Thank you so much for your kind words.  I wish I could be like you.  I am a mess because of my hair loss.  Maybe with time and a caring community I will be better.  Just knowing there are people like you makes me feel a lot better.  Thank you so much for your encouragement and taking the time to show that you care.

jude

Comment by Tundra Woman on July 1, 2021 at 12:01pm

Hi Jude,

I had a hairpocalypse of three weeks most unexpectedly during which I lost about 90% of my (hip length) hair. To say hair “falls, out” initially is an accurate description as it spreads the Crime Scene far and wide. But then (cue creepy Muzak) it mats. It mats like a Persian cat dipped in a vat of melted Italian Ice and it hurts! While this was going on I was getting weaker and weaker and one night I looked in the bathroom mirror and looking back at me was a woman who looked like they had mange. I found a dull scissors and started chopping as I was afraid I’d be too weak to stand in front of the mirror if I waited any longer. This should have demonstrated how foggy my brain was because what resulted could NOT be called a “hairstyle” by any definition and I sure didn’t need a mirror to bend over the sink and chop away. Then I lost all my hair; my bodily hair to include eyebrows to eyelashes (oh my poor eyeballs!) and ah....I was seeing things I hadn’t seen since I was about 11 yrs. old. Also, it was winter and I did not wear hats so I had none. When I started feeling a bit better I made an appointment to see my Primary and one of my neighbors was kind enough to lend me a tooke. When my appointment was scheduled, I kept my head down and found a seat in the back of the waiting room.

I live in the boonies and many people know me personally and professionally. There are no bricks and mortar hair stores so the learning curve on line for Hair You Wear was really steep. I found one company online that offered a lot of education and more stylish wigs so I worked with them. Nonetheless, I made every blunder in the world-and probably invented a few! (Some were hilarious, TBH!)

Jude, so many of the people you see in the media are wearing hair: From toppers and weaves to extensions and full wigs. People who wear hair recognize NO ONE’S hair looks that perfect every day, so we the “Folicularly Challenged” notice. A lot. Since I felt like a freak there was some consolation in acknowledging that reality. Nonetheless, we are not celebrities etc. so hair loss and it’s sequelae are *as unique as each one of us* regardless of whether we are men, women or identify in some other way. In my experience hair loss *is* traumatic for everyone. It’s truly a grief issue, so please  don’t under estimate how much of our Identity is tied up in our hair and appearance. Additionally  living with uncertainty is one of the most epically demanding mental states in which one can reside: If we *know* the outcome, we can start the process of accepting that reality no matter how bleak it may be *at the time.* Your response to your hair loss is normal IMO, Jude.

Clearly you are working with a physician-which is good. However, in my experience they can’t predict the course of anyone’s alopecia for sure: We live in a world of uncertainty, my friend. Further, hair loss can be a part of an illness that effects the whole body-but often that reality is not recognized as we are referred to a variety of specialists who may be experts in their field BUT not in certain kinds of illness that have multiple discrete manifestations over time throughout the entire body forming a medically recognizable clinical picture. As a result initially that presentation may not be  treated accordingly. To further muddy the waters, alopecia may be a part of the clinical picture of *multiple illnesses.* (Yeesh, hair: Thanks for the specificity!) That’s why I work with my Primary: They see the “whole picture” and we have a reciprocally respectful relationship-because I refuse  to tolerate anything less, frankly.

I don’t know where you are in your hair journey, Jude. Are you open to trying some toppers? If so, do you have a bricks and mortar store in your area? Do you realize you can do everything you’ve always done with Hair You Wear? Swim, ski, go hiking, camping etc. What ever activities you enjoy, there’s at least one solution/hack (usually multiple) to get you there. My concern is you’re going to hide inside because of your hair loss. People can become clinically depressed over their alopecia and it’s important to recognize this potential situational outcome, OK? 

Finally, we are not what’s ON our heads: We are what’s IN it. That’s a reality that comes from our intellect, not from our emotions. It takes awhile to work through the psychological issues associated with alopecia. Please hang around, Jude and remember, *YOU MATTER.* 

Best wishes :-) 

And any and all typos, omission, commissions, impressions, opinions etc. are on me: Objects are closer than they appear in the mirror. Use caution when operating. Keep away from children. Dispose of properly etc. etc.!

 

Comment by Jude on July 1, 2021 at 11:00pm

Tundra Woman,

I am so glad I found this site.    I am too embarrassed to discuss  my hair loss with anybody. I do not feel so alone thanks to you and all the other people that responded to me.  I am so depressed not knowing when I will  lose most of my hair or all it.  It just continues to get thinner and thinner.  You can’t keep on losing that amount of hair and not go bald or lose most of it.    You are so brave.  That must have been devastating to lose 90 percent of your hair in three weeks!! Then to lose all your bodily hair, too.  I truly understand how you must have felt.  I am so encouraged by your story.  Maybe someday I will accept my hair loss like you.  Also, thanks for letting me know you wear a wig.  I did not know that you could do all those things while wearing a wig.  Maybe I can wear a wig someday.   I had thoughts that I would never wear a wig. Right  now I have much thinner hair and bald spots I can cover.  Let’s face it, I don’t know how long my hair will last losing 450 hairs or more a day.  You have helped me so much and gave me such encouragement. I really don’t want to hide away, but I thought about it.  I think there is a couple of wig salons I can start with.  Thanks so much for caring about me and helping me through this devastating journey.  Thanks again for sharing your story with me.

Jade

Comment by Tundra Woman on July 3, 2021 at 2:53pm

Lucky you to have bricks and mortar shops available to you! Maybe just consider doing a Reconnaissance Mission to them and speak with the people who own/are employed by the various shops until you find someone who “gets” you, someone with whom you feel comfortable, OK? You don’t have to necessarily buy anything (although I would pick up something inexpensive, simply because I took up a lot of their time.) Also, it will help you become acquainted with some hair people in the event you do choose to avail yourself of their services sometime in the future.

Jade, what exactly are your fears/concerns regarding the possibility of wearing hair? Can you nail down your major ones aside from the obvious such as living with uncertainty right now? I’m asking because you mentioned you didn’t realize all the activities you can do with wigs, extensions, weaves, toppers etc. Your life does not have to be constricted in any way because of hair loss. There seems to be a lot of fear initially among those who are new to the alopecia community regarding other people’s responses to our appearance; is this one of your’s? 

In the event it is, remember, *you are in charge of how you respond to any challenge in your life:* ANY challenge, any arena. In fact, that’s all any of us have control over in this world.

I choose who I reveal my hair loss to while out in public. Obviously my close friends, family, colleagues etc. are aware of my Follicular Fiasco so no challenges there. If people are respectful when I’m out in public (this is a very conservative area, “my hair” style, color etc. is NOT) I’ll be happy to speak with them about my hair loss experience and more generally, medical conditions associated with alopecia. People are consistently surprised to learn this is not my natural hair. Just about every time I go out in public I get compliments on it which is the result of finding “my hair.” I’m originally from the NY metro area although I’ve been here for 40+ yrs. and continue to dress what the local’s call “city” so I’m already “branded” ;-)

Then there are the Idiots, aka those who are “Socially Challenged.” One that comes to mind was a Queen (certain segments of my gay friends prefer that designation) who screamed from waaayyy across the grocery store where I was minding my own business mauling the vegetables, “OH MY GAWD! I LOVE YOUR HAIR! IS IT YOUR’S?” while bearing down on me like a heat seeking missile. Time went into slo-mo as people turned to look at both of us. Of course it’s my hair: I bought and paid for it. He received a very chilly, Arctic response to his inappropriate “inquiry.” One would think as a hairstylist (as he informed me he was) he would have learned the necessity of discretion and manners.

Whether or not you have hair, there’s gonna be Idiots everywhere, Jade. Thoughts? Feelings? Experiences? 

Comment by Jude on July 6, 2021 at 9:52am

Tundra women

I believe you are the nicest person on the planet.  I appreciate your help so much. You are the only one that truly understands. You are such a life savior!  I will try to find someone I feel comfortable with and can help me. I still can’t picture going to exercise with a wig. When I bend over my hair goes upside down.  Won’t everyone see the wig.  I would also be afraid  it  would fall off.  I thought that would be the end of my exercise class if I have to wear a wig.  In my exercise class everyone always because commented on the thickness of my hair. I had unusually thick hair. Of course exercise was cancelled because of covid and I have not seen them in a long time.  If it starts up again I know they will notice that my hair is thinner than it was.  I am so embarrassed by it.  I wish I can get rid of this dark cloud.  I have tried but it is on my mind constantly.  My husband tells me that it still looks good and nobody is going to notice.  I notice, I can’t wear the same style hair, it won’t curl under the anymore and it is getting stringy. My hair was corse and now it is soft.  It feels like nothing on my head,  I feel I am about to lose my identity.  My biggest fear is looking in the mirror some day and I won’t be looking at me anymore.  How did you get rid of the gloom and doom feeling.  I have tried being happy but I cannot get rid of this awful feeling of losing my hair.  Thanks again for all your help.  I keep telling myself if you got through it maybe in time I can, too.  I want to believe I am in charge of my own destiny but that doesn’t seem to work yet.

Comment by Karen on July 6, 2021 at 1:29pm

First and foremost I AM NOT SELLING ANYTHING, my son lost a spot of his hair that was about the size of the palm of my hand.  He has many health challenges so we were at his neurologist, she told us to get him on a good mineral after trying a few and going to a natural health food store we found one. We started him on the mineral in September and by Christmas his hair was all back.  We have kept him on it so no more bald spots.  I know it may not work for everyone but it sure is worth a try

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