The cruel world

Yesterday I went to the store for some food. Suddenly an older foreign woman is flipping me her finger. I look around and it takes a second before i realise it is really me she means. Then she starts screaming - racist! bla bla bla, fu-ing racist bla bla... ehh, I am so surprised that I can´t get a word out. She walks away.

Then she comes back after a minute - and starts screaming again... then she says cancer? and points at my bald head. -" if not - racist! bla bla bla..."

Now the surprise is over and I tell her that it is none of her business whether I am sick or not. -" oh yes!" she says. ??? -Oh no! then I start screaming too... get the hell out of my sight and so on... Then I take my things and go pay. And go home with my bald head. With my head held high.

Summary: There are idiots out there. And sure this story could make me or others of you wanna hide in our wigs so we don´t have to deal with things like this. But I refuse. I am proud of my bald little head. It is mine.

This is the only time I have had such an ignorant and rude response to my bald head. A lot more times people have told me on the subway, in the playground with my children and other places - you are so beautiful and strong. And those are the comments I will keep in my head as I continue my journey in life.

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Comment by asdf234 on June 26, 2012 at 8:06am

I had never thought of this angle. Good for you, sticking up for your self! You are an inspiration.

Comment by Linda Rieschel on July 18, 2011 at 6:37pm
It's incredible how cruel and thoughtless some people can be. But I say, be proud that in spite of what you've experienced, you've remained true to yourself. I love that you are proud of your little bald head, as you call it. Good for you! Alopecia is not for the weak, is it? It takes a very strong, confident person to continue on each day when dealing with Alopecia. I pat myself on the back often for how far I've come in putting my hair loss into perspective. I'm proud that I did not succumb to it, and I think that it changed my life for the better. It has made me strong, kind, and empathetic to others. I think everyone should experience a little hair loss at some point in their life...it would make them better people! You said you had s0me questions for me...did you receive my message with my email? Linda Rieschel
Comment by Lisa Santer on July 6, 2011 at 6:34am
Helena, I'm sorry that happened to you. I'd guess it was kinda scary at first. I'm glad you held your head high and kept on with your life. Once, a looong time ago, wile alone in a Greyhound bus station, a guy came up to me and asked if I was a skinhead. I said no, my hair fell out; he didn't ask more. Still, I was unnerved, and quickly put a scarf on for the rest of my trip. Somehow, that misperception scared me. I haven't run into it since, thankfully.

I do wonder about the woman who screamed at you--what scared her so badly that it robbed her of her senses?
Comment by Violet on July 5, 2011 at 11:30pm
I've never even thought of that angle...that people would think a bald-headed woman was a racist. What a stupid old woman, and I'm sure she's lived her entire life judging everyone through her own narrow world view. Good for you that you didn't let her get to you, I don't think I'd have been as strong as you.
Comment by Giovana on July 5, 2011 at 10:41pm
I'm shocked! That woman is ignorant.
I hate people who invade someone's life more than they should.
Comment by Cheryl, Co-founder on July 5, 2011 at 10:15pm
Helena, If there is one thing I have had to prepare myself for is ignorance. That woman talked about racist while she was pre-judging you! Isn't that what prejudice/racism is? I am sorry that you had to deal with such a situation, but the real victory is that you walked home with your head high and not allowing others to determine the path that you have chosen. Kudos on you!
Comment by Diana Carter on July 5, 2011 at 9:48pm
Wow! That lady sure showed her ignorance!!!
Comment by PaulJ on July 5, 2011 at 5:04pm
I get it all the time and it really really really gets tedious. If its not cancer then its the accusations your a white supremicist\Nazi and what is worse is then the Nazis try to recruit me, they see me and think I must be one of them so come along all friendly and I really really reallyt cant stand them.
Comment by Helena Wenzin on July 5, 2011 at 6:56am
oh RoBB, thanks dear! I will for sure be on your team! :)
Comment by R0BB on July 5, 2011 at 6:15am
Ok - as if theres a chance in HELL that I wouldnt comment on this old bag's rude behavior.

Put the fact that shes foreign aside
Put the fact that shes an older more mature person aside
Put the fact that she's supposed to be a lady aside

OH SHIT !! Theres nothing left . lol

Helena - Im not going to add my two cents , cuz you reacted as I would have.
( Ok well I would have flipped her off BIGGER and had less patience )

Whatever youre doing to be the way that you are ..... keep doin it.

IN THE GAME OF LIFE .. I WANT HELENA ON MY TEAM .

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