Comment by Tallgirl on December 16, 2011 at 9:08am

You can also say, "Why do you think that's YOUR business?" and walk away if you don't like the answer. Silence speaks loudly...at least, to a thinking person.

Comment by LilyBell*Murphy'sLawLuvsMe on December 16, 2011 at 1:01pm

TG I like it! - unfortunately some are so dense or insensative or unaware or unthinking they just don't get the whole silence thing.

Comment by Nicole on December 16, 2011 at 1:45pm

Some people just do not understand the questions that should and should not be asked and simply because he or she may not know any better. I have had people ask me the same question for a few years when I first discovered I had alopecia and that is because people were used to seeing my regular hairstyle. In the beginning it was difficult to explain because I didn't know what was going on myself. But now, I have people who know me ask how is my hair, is it growing back yet, how are you feeling, and so on. When I am wearing my wig, I actually have people ask me who does my hair. None of these questions affect me the way they used to because I understand more about alopecia and its course and I love wearing my lace wigs and being able to change my style when I want. I feel liberated when I educate someone about alopecia and I think it is because I have become a stronger person about it. Do not let these type of people get you down, they just have to be educated about alopecia and learn something new.

Comment by zoitsa theo on December 18, 2011 at 10:43am

I am sorry that her comment hurt you. When someone noticed and called me out on my wig, a man no less, I was shocked and started getting paranoid about it. Was it that obvious?? After that, I started wearing my wig less, and wearing more headscarves, because if I was still going to have to answer questions, I may as well be more comfortable! I hate that people are so intrusive, and while I understand that perhaps I was given an opportunity to educate someone on AA, the last thing I want to do is cry to a stranger.

Comment by Cindie on December 18, 2011 at 5:54pm

All of your comments are great, but do understand that there is a certain type of person who is NOT going to accept any "education" that can be given about alopecia, and will draw their own (very wrong) conclusions about your disorder -- because everybody thinks he or she know more than physicians and those who do research on alopecia. I've been there....I don't even try to "educate" people anymore......

Comment by Brittany on December 18, 2011 at 11:20pm

I feel like people need to make other people feel small to make themselves feel better. You just ve halet them be and be thankful you are not ignorant like they are. It is upsetting how the world works sometimes.

Comment by Marieca on December 20, 2011 at 11:13pm

A similar incident happened to me in an AT&T store a former coworker asked me why i was wearing a wig because i have beautiful hair! I couldn't decide if I wanted to hit him first or bust into tears! People have some nerve! Now though, I'm past the sensitivity I will answer yes its a wig in a heartbeat and never think twice about it. You will get there.

Comment by Elizabeth on December 21, 2011 at 12:26am

@Stephanie, I remember this little boy asked me, (now, this was before I started wearing a wig) "Why don't you have much hair"? and I replied, "I don't know, but I would love it if you prayed for me"....He smiled and said, "yes"...and that really touched my heart. I think that's what I will do, when someone asks about my hair, my response should be "pray for me"...Can't go wrong with prayers in Jesus name:)

Comment by Elizabeth on December 21, 2011 at 12:27am

@Tall Girl, Lol! You're fierce! Girl power! :P

Comment by Elizabeth on December 21, 2011 at 12:28am

@LilyBell, I agree

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