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People never cease to amaze me. So this woman at church came up to me last Wednesday,and asked me if I was wearing a wig. I was shocked and I started stuttering, and then I finally told her "yes", with a smile. She then asked me "why, because Indian woman have beautiful hair"? and I noticed that I was about to tear up so just then I took my mind somewhere else as I answered " I have a form of Alopecia". She then asked what that was, so I told her. It's surprising to me sometimes that some people do not know that term, I guess because I've made Alopecia my whole life practically. She annoyed me even more by asking me if I was bald, and then apologizing for even asking me these questions. I wanted to pull her ever growing goatee off, lol... I feel like she could have been more sensitive, heck I'm very sensitive when it comes to other people. There are some questions that I just don't ask..I did'nt want her to infuriate me even more, so I left the room making up some excuse, then I went to the bathroom to cry. I wish I can avoid insensitive people, but I can't...I can only try and control the way I deal with them.
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Comment by Elizabeth on December 15, 2011 at 10:54pm
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@Cindie, Lol! Nice one!
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@Marianne, pats self on back, I try! lol...thanks:P
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@Karen, I'm sorry that your daughter has to deal with this....I have the same thoughts, I would rather bring it up rather than someone asking because of curiosity. I remember when I told one of my close friends at church, he simply said, "my sister, I always knew you were wearing a wig"...and then I asked him why he never stared or asked me anything, and he said it was because he did'nt want to make me uncomfortable. Just then I thought, "I wish I could clone this guy"! lol...and yeah that lady was rude :(
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@Tall girl, That sounds like a smart idea to me:P
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@Kram, I totally agree, I thank God that He is who He is, and who He is, is Perfect! :)
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@Tall girl, :)
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Comment by NYCGirlie on December 15, 2011 at 5:53pm
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Sometimes people have no shame...or common sense! It is not her business if you wear a wig and why you are wearing it. That really annoys me that complete strangers would ask such a personal question as if they are entitled to an answer. I fear that happening to me when I start wearing a wig...I need to think of a comeback because I dont want anyone to know nor is it their business. Any suggestions on how to handle that if you don't want to answer it?
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Comment by Cindie on December 15, 2011 at 2:19pm
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Rude and horrible....and I do like the electrolysis comeback!
I've had the same kind of thing happen to me....people saying that "they didn't understand why I wear wigs, because all the other women in my family have lovely hair."
My comeback is: "yes, they have good stuff on their heads, and I have even better stuff (brains) IN my head!
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Comment by Marianne on December 15, 2011 at 1:48pm
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I Love the Electrolysis comeback!! :))) Good for you!! :))
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It bothers my daughter when other people will bring it up and it is not her wanting to talk about it. People are curious. I have an Aunt that is not a blood relative that has always worn a wig. She is in her 80's, everyone always talked about it but noone ever asked her why or mentioned it. I would love to ask her now if it is because of alopecia but wouldn't want to make her uncomfortable. The lady that asked you about it seems rude.
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