Comment by Tallgirl on July 18, 2011 at 6:45pm

That was extremely invasive and uncouth. I hope you will mail them some alopecia info to ponder for...uh...ten years before you see them again...if ever! They owe you a MAJOR apology. Sure you can't sue them where you live, ha ha?

They are certainly UNcivilized, and definately savage.

Comment by R0BB on July 18, 2011 at 6:46pm

Hi there .

I can relate to how shallow strangers can be . Its magnified bigtime when its family acting this way.
It also sucks when you cant be relaxed in and around your own home sometimes.

People just don't seem to THINK before they speak these days. You'd think that the older generation ( your inlaws ) would practice this courtesy.

I think ya did exactly what I would have done - tell em flat out whats going on to shut them up.

Chin up there Ms. Savage ... tomorrows another day :)

Comment by civilizedsavage on July 19, 2011 at 12:23pm

Ahhh, you guys are great.
The husband was buried in the garage and missed it all, I told him about it after they left and he just kind of face palmed. He was embarrassed for them and said, "They sure do put their feet in their mouth a lot".

Comment by Norm on July 19, 2011 at 12:45pm

But look on the bright side - if they've got their feet in their mouths, they can't come out with any more crap, can they? :) And, er, you didn't REALLY bury Himself in the garage, did ya.... Jeez, I'm not coming to any of your parties.... oo-ee-oo!

Comment by Tallgirl on July 19, 2011 at 5:04pm

Believe it or not, I found that taking an Assertiveness class (free in the Health/Counseling Dept. at college) helped a lot in getting me to rely only on my own strengths in an assertive, not aggressive, way. Also, I read Guide to Rational Living (Albert Ellis) and I'm O.K., You're O.K. that year, both helping me to realize how to speak /listen adult-to-adult with others, instead of parent-child. If the grown-ups in your life are trying to take charge of your choices and emotions, or if any friends try to "demand" how you "should" speak or act, consider just walking away until they can treat you respectfully, as grown-ups do! Each of us really is okay, with a personal story and set of emotions! ..

Comment by MiNAH on July 20, 2011 at 11:09am

Nasty Miserable People being humorous at the expense of another! Yeah I said it ... and not shocked at all. You do not have to put up with that nonsense. Myself, I walk out there without a wig and totally shaven, glad to annoy the crap out of them. Just to see the stupied wrinkled look upon their faces. That glare in their eyes! Besides I think it looks hot, rather than a map of the world. After all, it was they, my family who gave me the tools to fight back with. I think, or even say ... "so you want to laugh and talk about me as if I wasn't here, insult and humiliate me ... so go ahead ... spew out the venom, spew out the vitriol, see if I give a damn". It is so enlightening when we reach an understanding of the ugliness others possess, how rewarded we become when they expose their true character. I love watching them act out their stupidity, as if they were monkeys in a cage. I can expect a monkey to act crazy, however for another human being to ridicule, disrespect ones choices and difference there are no excuses. Personally I have gotten to a point now, where I shall not even entertain them with explaining myself. Dang, if I don't look like a woman, I'm ugly without head covering, and I'm sick in the head ...well I just found out who the sickest ones in this story are. SO YOU SEE I "HEAR NO EVIL, SEE NO EVIL, AND SPEAK NO EVIL" back at them anymore, because my words and energy are way, way, way too important ... as to not waste my time, no way no how! Wear what ever wig or style you want, and never explain yourself to ignoramuses.
No disrespect to your inlaws, yet mine are included in this as your back up! ....

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