Wig comments

This past weekend I was at this event, and I wore my wig. I bought my wig back in March so I've been wearing it for a little while now, and alot of people have seen my new "look." Well, at this event, a ton of people I haven't seen in a while (before my wig) were there. Many people I know have been saying over the past couple months how they like my new hair cut and when did I decide to cut it all off, and so on and so on. (I hate these questions – but my hair is so different now from what it was!) Well, at this event, somebody I haven't even seen in forever and who is more like an acquaintance said, "Hey Nikki, how are you doing.." followed by "Is that your real hair!?" This person said this in front of friends that don’t know about my alopecia yet and there were other bystanders nearby that I didn't exactly feel like I just wanted them to know I was wearing a wig. Later, another girl said the same thing to me and kept on asking if that really was "my real hair." I lied to shut her up and said yea, but then later, I told her that it was a wig and how I have alopecia. She is more like an acquaintance as well, and I didn't want her to know, but I felt weird and silly for lying. Ughh, that was so humiliating. I actually had to step outside for a moment. I had a little anxiety from those comments and thought how rude it was for these obnoxious people to just ask out loud like that, in addition to my “secret” being exposed. I don’t want people to know. I don’t know if I ever will feel completely comfortable with this, but I know I’m not ready. I don’t understand why I need to tell people anyway. This is personal and what difference does it make? I did tell one of my friends about my situation and how I wear a wig later that night because I knew she overheard those people. She said she never knew, but I don’t know if she was just being nice. A lot of people said they can’t even tell I’m wearing a wig and how it looks so real, but now I’m so self-conscious about my wig. I don’t really want people to know, and I don’t know why. But if I thought someone was wearing a wig, I wouldn’t just come right out and ask them?!?!?!

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Comment by Tiffany P on June 17, 2010 at 3:29pm
I dont think its as much about insensitivity as it is ignorance. poeple just speak before they think and as annoying as it is i'm sure we have all done it one time or another. I feel that since i paid for the hair then yes it is my hair. I am very open about alopecia because poeple need to realize that not every bald woman has cancer or trying to be a rebel. We live in a world that judges people to quickly and we cant change that but we can control how we deal with it and if you feel comfortable with how your dealing wiht this situation thats all that matters but at some point you will have to accept it and be happy about who you are. I am coming to terms with this and full acceptance is what i want but i figure if hairloss is the worst thing that happens to me then i'll take it. I hope you have a great weekend :o)
Comment by Lee on June 19, 2010 at 11:02pm
Same EXACT thing happened to me at work the first day I wore a wig...woman were even touching it. I finally pulled them aside and told them, and all was well. I completely understand how that feels...that was my worst alopecia day...all good since then tho!
Comment by lynne on June 20, 2010 at 6:01pm
hey i had the same thing happen few wks bak, a guy had run his hands down my hair then asked me if it was real, i was really really drunk and punched him in the face, i never react like this but for some reason that really upset me that moment, most people i know do u know i wear a wig which helps as i hate hiding somethin like that, i think eventually ud have to tell people as i have took part in games n things and had to wear a head scarf as my wig would get ruined, i hate wen people dont know and question it tho or if they say my hair is nice or nice colour i just say thank u,
anyone who asks u something u dont like tell them where to go, lol x

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