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I've had AA for the past 25 year on and off. In 2004 my hair started to fall out again and I have not had a full head of hair since. In 2009 I had to start wearing a wig to cover up the spots. Last year I was pregnant and was hoping that would help with my hair. During my pregnancy it was at a stand still. Balding areas didn't grow and hair I had didn't fall out. Now over the past month (3/4 months postpartum) it has been falling out in clumps. My scalp even hurts to the touch. I won't let anyone see me without my head covered. I don't even like to look at it. I do have some growth in older spots which is nice but really having a hard time coping this time around. I am usually one who has no problems showing people and educating them about alopecia. Well the hair I do have is about 5-6 inches in length and I want to cut it cause with what little amount I have of that length on all different areas of my scalp I look awful. My husband does not want me to cut it yet he has given me no reason. I think he just doesn't want to see me with no hair at all. I know it is my head/hair and I should just do want I want but I still respect my husband's thoughts about the issue. Any thoughts out there?
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Comment by mabaker on February 15, 2012 at 4:15pm
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Hoping you find a way to be more comfortable - you are beautiful x
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Comment by LifeLocksandLashes on February 16, 2012 at 3:27am
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Hi, congratulations on the birth of your beautiful baby! I couldn't resist a little look at your pictures. Just gorgeous! I have been an AA sufferer for 7 years and the same thing happened to me 3/4 months post partum too. I have written a blog about it here (lifelocksandlashes.blogspot.com)
Getting rid of the last bits of hair was absolutely the best thing for me. Seeing the remainder and watching it fall out was so hard. When I shaved it, I felt like I was taking control and not having to see it happen. Ultimately the decision is yours and, although I can understand you want to respect his thoughts, I think he should be respecting and putting your wellbeing first.
Lots of love x
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Comment by Tallgirl on February 16, 2012 at 5:06am
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Have him go with you to a shop where you can try on more new wigs so you can "cover until it grows back." See if he likes anything on you and sees your smile in something that makes you feel good (one step at a time, y' know!). Can you just cut it short but not shaved for now, and decide more later? Does he have someone whispering in his ear about your head, or does he think it will pass on to the children? What would he say to complete these sentences:
When I walk next to/look at my wife's alopecia, I feel _________________________________.
I hate it when my family and friends say __________________________.
If my wife had all her hair back forever, I would _____________________________.
When my wife feels uncomfortable, I wish she would just ____________________________.I am sure you can come up with more that require revelation with more than "Yes" or "No" answers. Then again, some guys just joke their way out of anything or become indignant at being asked questions. Good luck on this one.
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