Femme fatale

My neighbor once asked me years ago if I still felt like a "girl" even though I lost all my hair. I think this is such a ridiculous question to ask. Yes, since forever, women have been admired for their hair and such, but I have never felt less "womanly" because of my lack of it.  I mean, Alopecia made it easier for me to be a girl because I don't have to shave my legs, I can have any hairstyle I want, my eyebrows are always nicely arched (thanks to the tattoo), etc. So, yes to my awful neighbor, I still feel like a girl.

Have any of you had a similar issue, or ever thought about this?

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Permalink Reply by AlopeciaDestroyedMyLife on July 10, 2014 at 12:52pm

Hi Jackie,

Looking from it through my eyes, I do feel less of a man as I cant grow a beard etc ( something i really miss) and having to use an eyebrow pencil something normally reserved for women. I think a lot of people really do underestimate the psychological impact alocrapia can have . 

Glad your feeling good about yourself and being comfortable with it. 

much love 

Permalink Reply by Debs on July 10, 2014 at 5:14pm
Hi there Jackie, I feel like you, yes I am still a feminine woman, my eyebrows like yours are tattoed and I get lots of compliments about my 'hair' which of course is wigs.... I go on dates and am relaxed telling men I have alopecia, it has not put any guys off. Your neighbour us frankly an idiot, thank goodness you have coping strategies and are comfortable with yoyrself, good on you.
Permalink Reply by Tallgirl on July 13, 2014 at 10:33pm

I have explored more with hair (wig) colors and styles, bigger earrings, and better eye make-up and brow shaping than I ever would have with my old hair, so I feel like I can present a more feminine self than many of my same-aged female friends. I, too, love not spending an hour shaving legs every other day anymore, and that legs and arms are now smooth on their own.

Permalink Reply by Chromatic on August 2, 2014 at 11:38am

I have nothing but ill words for the genderization of things like hair, personality traits, activities, etc.....your neighbor is a lower life-form in my view.  Sorry if that's harsh :3

Permalink Reply by Vicki on August 3, 2014 at 9:38pm

This is probably why only a handful of people know I have alopecia. It just seems so personal to me - that I don't feel forced or obligated to tell people. Its not like it is contagious. Comments such as your neighbor would have set me off, but then again I probably would have let my husband and kids handle him. :)

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