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How to cope with being diagnosed with alopecia? Life is so unfair :'(
Hi I'm 18 and I've just been diagnosed with alopecia areata. Its really hard to deal with It and right now it seems as though I will never accept it:'( I have beautiful long hair but its slowly disappearing:'( I just wana end my life and take the easy way out because life does NOT seem worth it. I need advice please, I need to know how I can cope with this, how I can also be strong and overcome the emotional pain:(
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Permalink Reply by Deeann on
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Alicia: Please don't say you want to end your life over hair. I know it's way...deeper than losing your hair. It's about identity, the idea of what beauty is... I understand, as does everyone on this site. Please, please understand that it gets better, as does any change in life. Do you have anyone to talk to who lives with you or near you?
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Alicia: Please put "Johannesburg) in the search key to find others in your area who you might be able to talk to about this. It's always nice to have someone close by to talk to.
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Permalink Reply by Tallgirl on
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I am going to send you a Friend Request so you can read and see my pix and blogs and responses. Some people have some great insights on here. Remember, I am only going to save helpful advice...not things to make anyone (or myself) sadder!
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Permalink Reply by alicia on
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Thank you deeann and tall girl for replying. Yes there are people I can talk to but I don't think that they really understand what I'm facing. I'm an emotional wreck, the only person that I've been talking to is God and it seems like he isn't even listening. It might just be "hair" to many but its way way more deeper then that, I've been through so much and right now everything just hit me at once. I'm so sorry for laying this all on you, but you are the 1st person that actually responded and that means a lot. Thank you
thank you sooooooo much gosh you are a true angels. I have no idea how this site works that's why I took so long to reply
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Permalink Reply by Linda on
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Hi Alicia
I know exactly what you are going through...I was diagnosed 3 months ago and I will tell you there are good days and bad days. I'm so scared to shower cuz I know the drain will be clogged! but I need to shower...lol can't be all smelly and gross!=P There are nights where I cry endlessly so it seems and you know what? There isn't a darn thing I can do about it. I look at old photos of my long thick oriental hair and I know it's disappearing at a fast rate. Tomorrow I will be looking at wigs and extensions...I just want hair on my head sooo badly. I guess the positive thing about this is when it comes to wigs I can be blonde, red, pink whatever I want! Just remember one thing ...it's not the hair that makes the person....I know that sounds so cliche but I know that you are strong young woman. We often say things like "I want to end my life!" as a cry for help ...please know that I am thinking of you and you have my support. Remember you are not alone in this. <3 hugs Linda
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Thank you linda! I woke up this morning and cried so much:'( its so hard to deal with. I jst cannot accept losing my hair:( thank you for your support, I appreciate it. Big hugs:)
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Permalink Reply by Ryan on
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Hey i know the feeling ayy,
im 19 got diagnosed with AA almost 3 months ago,
i struggled intencly at the start but my way of getting over it is putting a hate on and forget its happenin and all the hair i do have flicks out the sides, my patchs arnt toooo noticable but can deffantly be seen,
if your only at early stages things can come right from here, the ussal alopecian falls into the lasts 3-6 months and fully grows back,
most people on here are past that but 90% of the people with that outcome wouldnt come on here.. try not to let it worry ya as impossible as that sounds and let it take its course it will probley just be a phase in your life
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Permalink Reply by Paty on
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You're a beautiful young lady alicia. Please don't give up. Losing hair is part of all of us Hun. We have all been in your shoes and totally know where your coming from but this condition doesn't mean life is over. It has just changed a little. I also have Alopecia areata and i was 12 when I started losing my hair. Its very difficult at your age, believe me I know, but it will get easier. We're all here for you and we know your pain. Talk to me if you'd like, anytime.
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I just wana thank everyone for the great support and encouragement. I really appreciate this so much. I just can't accept this as yet:'( one minute I'm fine the next I snap :'( its a process I will learn to deal with, my wish this christmas is to get this illness sorted out:'(
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Permalink Reply by Sydney on
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Alicia,
I as well was diagnosed with alopecia areata (just this week actually) after I found several sizeable spots on my head that are now smooth skin where my hair used to be. They range from being the size of a nickel to the size of a half dollar. With each passing day I see more and more of my hair fall out. The first two days I was in total despair. I have always been known for my hair and I'm getting married in February. The thought of not having my hair for my wedding day was and still is crushing. But after a few days of wallowing, which we are definitely allowed, I realized that it's better to prepare for what is coming and grow stronger than to lay down and allow it to consume me. I have always wanted to have a "Britney Spears" moment once in my life where I just shave my head. And although the timing is not on my own terms, I am finding a way to embrace it. I don't know, maybe it's because I've dealt with a lot in my life that I can find strength in adversity. Reach out to your family and friends that are close with you, lean on them for the strength and support that you currently do not have for yourself. What makes women beautiful is not what is on the outside. What makes us beautiful is the fact that we are so strong that we can handle anything that is thrown our way.
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Permalink Reply by Blessed Soul on
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I can understand what u r going throu & I felt exactly the same once many yrs ago. But, u know life is more much than just hair. Just c all the gud things around u : lifestyle, family, education, beautiful nature, etc. U will always feel better. Also, feel urself lucky that u r not going throu any physical pain which some illnessess brings with them. At least u can walk, talk, hear, listen & have a sound mind. Life is filled with struggle & the person who overcomes his/her probs with self-confidence & a smile on his/her face is the winner! Always remember, God gives probs to only those whom He think r strong enough to handle them. So, He wants u to come closer to Him! :)
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Permalink Reply by Liz on
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So sorry that you are feeling so sad. Hair is important! I am 52 years old and I've had a hair loss problem since I was your age. Hang in there. It gets better. If I look good, i usually feel good about myself. I have developed a love of wigs and enjoy wearing different styles. It takes some experimentation to figure out what works for you. I hope you feel better soon. PLEASE don't think any more about ending your life over this.
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