My 5 year old son has AA and his hair loss is getting to be extensive enough that we are considering shaving it all off for the time being.
I've talked to him about how some people have hair and some people don't, and he's very good about doctors appointments and putting on various hair creams etc.
But I haven't specifically talked to him about having AA and what it means. I'd like to discuss it all with him before we cut it right down, but am unsure of how to approach the subject.
He is very open to suggestions usually and he hasn't been upset at all about his hair to date.
Is there anyone who has any advice on this? thanks!
I'm not a mom, but I have been close with a little girl who had alopecia her whole life. I've known her since she was four (she's ten now), and she understands a lot more than you think. Please, please, be as honest and open with your son as possible. She once asked me if I ever not like myself because I don't have hair. At five, she knew she had alopecia, what is was, and that she wasn't contagious. She has had a lot of regrowth, but I was always gently honest with her that while our disease was unpredictable, hair doesn't make us who we are.
Kids are so much smarter than we realize. The little girl I know taught me that. I wish you and your family all the best, and of course feel free to contact me :)
You've some wonderful responses to your comments about your son's Alopecia. Be honest and open to his queries and those of his friends. As a retired teacher I was humbled and gob-smacked by the deep questions children asked me about Alopecia. They appreciated my equally as honest responses too.
I had bald spots as a child that went away. I don't feel that I ever had to deal with alopecia as a child because I never cared, and maybe it was never really noticeable. So, I'm not really in a position to comment on childhood alopecia, but I'm happy to hear of kids that are OK with who they are in the world. I have been to one alopecia support gathering, and I was saddened to see a little girl who seemed very self conscious about her problem. I use the word "problem" deliberately because it seemed as if she knew something was wrong with her, something her parents were doing their best to fix. It made me question whether I would pursue treatment if my child lost his or her hair because the risks of sending a message about not being OK might seem greater than the chances of treatment leading to regrowth.
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You are so right Gordon.
In New Zealand there is little information for people who have Alopecia and so I began searching on the internet and luckily I found this site. I was able to find out things that I needed to know, but the best thing of all the folk were on my wavelength and had been on a like journey. To able to share with people who know how you are feeling is so up lifting. I will be sharing this and alike experiences within a group meeting detailing the benefits I gained and with luck they will agree with me that's it's time to form a national body to support each other. But I have found that talking freely and openly about Alopecia is the best thing to do as you take the mystery out of what happening and it becomes just part of who you are. Thanks from me to everyone and best wishes on your own journeys through life.