I am so embarrassed!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Today, I went out to a local bookstore and while I was walking around, a tall guy came around and stared at me. Surprised, considering that I look ugly, I kept walking around. Another girl was heading in a different direction but she casted glances my way. I still could not figure out why these people were looking at me, and when I got home, I was in shock! The way I did my hairstyle changed and my hairs were loosened, hence you could see my scalp. Note that I have androgenetic alopecia, so my scalp is very visible if I don't clip my front hair back.

After I saw my scalp in the mirror, I wanted to die. I was so humiliated and even worse, I went to my university earlier today, the students there must have seen my scalp too!

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Permalink Reply by Tallgirl on August 27, 2013 at 10:28pm

Now that you know this, quickly solve it so you can get through the day with a smile: hat, wig, scarf or shave. Make a choice, and get a pretty make-over at a good cosmetics counter at a high-class store. Shop for awesome earrings, a professional blazer, and then have a different bookstore experience for yourself. Plus, you will surprise your friends!

Permalink Reply by Lilac on August 27, 2013 at 10:46pm

I don't usually wear a hat, wig or shave (actually I want to shave my head and wear a wig but not ready to do so). I already got a makeover; it is just that this alopecia has been a struggle for me. It's so frustrating to do with what I have right now. I only posted this to vent it.

Permalink Reply by Alliegator on August 28, 2013 at 2:32pm

I'm sorry that happened Mariam. I also have AGA. I know what you mean. At one point, I had a "combover", and I was always worried that my scalp was showing. If you aren't ready for a wig/scarf/shave, that is understandable. It took me a long time to be ready. I will say that wigs provided me what I needed to cope with AGA. I wish I would have tried them long before I did. Just know that there are a ton of wig options out there, and they have afforable/stylish ones too. HUGS! It will get better.

Permalink Reply by Lilac on August 29, 2013 at 1:19am

Thank you so much!! Your post made me feel better. I wish this will never happen now that I have become more "aware" of what my hair looks like.

Permalink Reply by Cindie on September 3, 2013 at 9:30pm

I am so, so sorry that this happened to you, Marian. Over twenty years ago, when the two, huge bald spots on either side of my head became impossible to hide, and someone loudly blurted out to me, "girl, do something about your bald ass (pardon the language) head...go to a doctor or something" -- I decided that it was "time" to quit trying to hide that which was not able to be hidden. I wasn't (and still am not -- and maybe never will be able), to shave my head and go "au bald natural"), but I found that wigs made me MUCH more comfortable. Sometimes when we, ourselves don't feel "ready", things happen to hasten our readiness.

Permalink Reply by Sarah on August 29, 2013 at 11:06am

Hi Mariam,
I have AA which comes and goes. Recently I had the biggest patch I've ever had and it was right on the back of my head near my crown. I had just started to grow my hair, luckily, and was able to put it up in a clip. But.............. I had to make sure it was covered and done just right. Meaning standing holding a mirror and looking back into antoher mirror before I left the house. I'm always aware it's there and forever checking if you can see it.
I know how you feel, there's been times I know it's been on show and although I know I should have this 'I don't care' attitude, it's hard.
I just wanted to share and let you know your not the only one :)
Feel free to message me whenever you want.

Permalink Reply by Garden Girl on August 29, 2013 at 11:40am

Once when I was in high school my wig fell off in gym class. I ABSOLUTELY wanted to die. My wise mom made me go to school the next day. It was uncomfortable but now I can laugh at it!!!

Permalink Reply by Linda Lu fennell on September 3, 2013 at 9:15am
I have just recently been diagnosed with this. I'm really not sure how to feel. All I can say is one day it seemed like I had a head full of hair and then I had a patch In the front fall out and didn't think anything about it cuz it came back and then that's when this ride began. I had a patch fallout in the back and them it just kind of went all the way around my head to another spot that was just all by itself. So them it was a big spot. I hid it for a year and a half but could no longer hide it!!! I was devastated.. Got a wig and I know I have a lot of people wondering how my hair grew so long so quick until they figure out its a wig.. I have had to look in the mirror too and have my kids stay on the lookout for a bald spot just to let me know.. I'm still not over the embarrassment part either and I don't think I will ever be. I have people tell me all the time it's not ur fault and there's nothing u can do about it and you are beautiful just the way you are..... So just remember that and try to hold your head up I'm right there with you and I'm struggling with the whole concept of it all but am leaving it in gods hands cuz as we all know he has a plan for you and me. Not quite sure what that is quite yet not looking like this bit hey we can do this!!!!! Just thought I would share and let u know that u are not alone......:)/)/):):(:)

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