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Is it just me?
What do you all think of this: Yesterday I decided to change my profile pic to one of myself bald and when I checked my computer today I had 3 guys who'd private messaged me. Now, I'm not a young woman, it says on my profile I'm married, and I just wonder if this happens to me what is it like for all you younger single women?
Maybe I'm over-reacting BUT it seems strange that for quite a few months I've had a profile pic of myself with hair and no man has messaged me privately.
Now these guys may be fine and I deleted them before I checked out their pages - oh I did check the first guy out and he virtually says the same to everyone - how lovely they look bald etc...now that sort of flattery doesn't wash with me AT ALL because that's all it is...sheer flattery that means zilch!
So please guys, if you are reading this get a grip...I mean really...those of us here are here for support and I know of people here who have been fed a line and been taken for a ride only to be unceremoniously dumped once the novelty has worn off.
I'm lucky. I have a very supportive partner. I'm not starved for compliments. Others haven't got this luxury.
Telling someone they're pretty because they are bald leaves me cold I'm afraid.
Is it just me????
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Permalink Reply by BTB (John) on
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I have met men who are like those men who message inappropriatly on here they are always men who have no confidence, they are socially incompetent, are of low intellect, sexually repressed, have a mother complex, unattractive, sexually inadequate in all areas, I have always found them losers.
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Permalink Reply by LilyBell*Murphy'sLawLuvsMe on
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Nail meet Head
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Pat, you are not alone.
I know of several women who were taken advantage of in this way. I am older too and have a partner so this is not an issue for me as much. Plus my avatar is my dog.
I dont' come on here looking to be harrassed by someone who has some fetish. Or someone who thinks that all women who are losing their hair are easy targets and might be willing to settle for them because the woman has low self esteem.
I don't understand why any man is here who does not have hair loss or who is not close to someone who does. They say they are here to make friends? How did they even find this site - why would they choose this support site to make new friends? I don't trust any of the men on here who do not have hair loss themselves.
And why is it that I have yet in over two years seen a womans profile who does not have hair loss or who has a close friend or family member with hair loss who is on here looking to 'make friends'.
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Still awesome as always LB
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Permalink Reply by Tuesday on
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I find it grating, to say least, to be contacted by these sorts. I have had AU for 10 years and always been private about photos. Even so, I have received those weird emails from men asking me to take photos of myself bald and send it to them. Yeah, okay, stranger, I'll get right on that ... :-p
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As I said these men are socially inept and cant tell this is a support site not a dating site, their facile stupidity makes them so sad as individuals.
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Permalink Reply by Pat on
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You here for support Andre or you checking out fellow baldies....just because someone is bald doesn't mean your gonna like em
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Time for some respect Andre.
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Perhaps so Andre...this was a serious topic and flippant remarks are pointless. I feel sorry for the young ones here - yourself included - when others don't see past their baldness. A person is more than their looks, I'm sure you'd be the first to agree with me but so often men [it's usually men] come on this site just to check out bald women and it's very distasteful to me. We all like to think we are attractive and nice comments are appreciated but when a person's first comment to you is "you have a lovely smile" or "you look great bald" etc it just makes me sad that they are that shallow.
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Permalink Reply by Christine on
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Yeah, I'm older too, and had some sketchy comments on instant msg's. The questions seemed to be leading in a direction that made me uncomfortable, I just got the feeling that this guy didn't have AA, but was fishing around, steering the talk to a more sexual direction, overly concerned about his being unattractive to women, to being concerned about being a virgin?? Needless to say I signed off.....oh yeah he said he liked my profile pic too. Yucky creepy feeling.
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its just wrong that this happens on a support site and its not just young males either.
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I know John, we come here for support and to be a support to others, but like everywhere else in the world, there are going to be those who take advantage, or try to, just sad really. I agree it's not just young males either, I think we all have to be on guard these days.
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