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Permalink Reply by Rose Marie' on September 25, 2011 at 9:09pm

Hi

Sounds like even though this was a horrible uncalled for act for your stepdaughter to have to deal with, it was dealt with sensibly and with thought for everyone involved.

I'm sure your stepdaughter feels supported and cared for at her school now and knows that she can turn to those in authority when people treat her in a way that is not ok.

Good on all of you.

Rosy

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Permalink Reply by jessicafd on September 25, 2011 at 9:32pm

My husband and I are there for her.Her teacher knows she has alopecia including the principal.The principal called it a horrible uncalled act what these two boys did to her.She feels supported now knowing her teacher including the principal care about her a lot.If it happens again,she can tell the principal including her teacher.Husband and I are learning about alopecia areata very well and what causes it.

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Permalink Reply by Carla on September 26, 2011 at 2:17pm

Hello,

I am sorry that your daughter had to endure teasing!! You handled the situation so well. I hope that your daughter has a wonderful rest of the school year. Hopefully, those boys have learned a lesson and are remourseful for their actions.

Blessings,

Carla

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Permalink Reply by jessicafd on September 26, 2011 at 6:49pm

Luckily the parents of these boys plan on talking to them about alopecia areata too.I love my step daughter a lot and says I am a great step mom.

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Permalink Reply by Rodeli on September 26, 2011 at 10:39pm

Hi Jessica, I'm sorry your step daughter had to go through this. I went through that experience several times when I was a kid. It got a little better by HS. I have to commend the teacher and principal for handling it so appropriately, and the boys parents too. I don't recall that being my experience growing up. Sometimes it wasn't the boys either that gave me a hard time--sometimes it was the girls. But the real blessing for me was that I was out going and otherwise happy and made lots of friends and over time, I got picked on less because of the many friends I had. Sometimes, even the kids who were awful to me in younger grades got more maturity as we grew up and some became friends even--not best of friends, mind you, but we hung in the same circles, had same friends, and they stopped teasing me so much. I think as Liz forms really good relationships with her peers, she will find she will not be teased so much and if she does, it will be a different kind of teasing like the way friends joke around. I even developed a sense of humor abou my own alopecia over the years. After you give her a hug from Tan, give her one from me too and tell her there are lots of girls/women who went through what she is going through and we all made it through the tough times and are better for it.

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Permalink Reply by jessicafd on September 27, 2011 at 8:01pm

Luckily she has good understanding friends behind her too and witnessed it happening.Luckily the wig was not damaged,I bought it for her on her 10th birthday back in March.

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Permalink Reply by Lucky1000 on September 28, 2011 at 12:40am

Hi,

Im 12 and i have the same problem. This may not be great advice but i hope it works.

Does your daughter have anyone that she can talk too? If she talks to you, or her friends, or someone at school that she trusts. Maybe thats not enough. I think the answer to your problem is for her maybe to talk to someone else that has this condition also. It may be easier because then the person with Alopecia will understand how she feels, what she can do ect. There are heaps of people that would want to talk to her. Its not easy to have alopecia, but tell her this ''bald is beautiful'' them boys might be jelous that she gets a cool wig and gets to choose the colours, and that the hair is cooler than theres. The boys have NO RIGHT to do that to her or to anyone. Im glad what happened to them did.

Hope this helps

PS: Add me if your daughter is intrested in a pen pal :)

Amba

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Permalink Reply by jessicafd on September 28, 2011 at 8:07am

One of her friends does have Alopecia,Hannah and they talk about it.

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Permalink Reply by Bald and Fabulous AKA Terri on October 2, 2011 at 11:50pm

Im so sorry to hear that your step daughter had to experience such cruelty at school. I still have the memories some 28 years later of having my wig pulled off at school and being named called for it. Had the teachers and the parents of the kids done something to show that this was inexcusable behavior maybe it wouldnt haunt me still today. Liz sounds like a very brave and strong young lady and I wish her all the best. HUGS to you Liz and your family

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Permalink Reply by jessicafd on October 3, 2011 at 10:22pm

She is brave and strong because of me.I have been teased in the past because of my hair, I am a redhead and I told her this.Told her the names I was called a lot.

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Permalink Reply by Loraine and Sammy on October 18, 2011 at 7:11am

my daughter had a similar incident at school when she was 11, last year when she first wore herwig- the school responded in the same way - but what they also pointed out was that the two boys were similarly cruel to others with any difference. It also made all the other kids way more understanding and supportive of Sammy and alienated the boys that had been cruel....it was tough at the time but was an interesting learning curve for Sammy, her friends and the school :)

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