Relationship worries

Hey there, does anybody have any advice on what to do about your relationship with your boyfriend when he can't cope with me his girlfriend having alopecia and being bald???

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Permalink Reply by Norm on December 18, 2011 at 6:01pm

Whoo, Jules, you've been going through a bit of a tough time there.... no wonder you can't eat properly - you're full of pills! :)

Why do you suppose you give yourself such a hard ride? What's happened to make your self-image so low?? I see a pretty girl who's extremely articulate, who should be enjoying life and sampling all it has to offer, which obviously isn't the person you see. Hmmm.... I think you need a bit of a hand to pull you back up out of the basement of life.... look, instead of worrying about how those FB guys MIGHT react, why doncha take one or two of them up on their offer and see what happens? All you have to do is say that those pix aren't recent, you've been ill and you look a bit different. If any of them drop out at that point, you'll know they weren't worth your energy - but the ones who say "so what, let's do it anyway" are the ones with potential! And in the meantime, start practicing those hugs - you might need to do it for real if the dates go well :)
Tell you what, howzabout I start you off with a virtual one. Does that sound OK? I'll send it separately from this reply so you don't get embarrassed ;)

Hey, that's better - you look ace when you smile! :P

Permalink Reply by Julie Koch on December 18, 2011 at 6:14pm

You just brought tears of joy to my heart. Literally, I am crying. I have been thinking about doing exactly what you said. I should try to go out and if I am rejected then they aren't worth the time anyways. I took a 5 month break from FB because it isn't as hyped up as it seems to be. I'm sure the majority of people on there have problems too but handle it differently. I might start limiting my friends and just keep it more for family that isn't around the area. A lot of my FB friends are quite immature and I have almost 300 friends on my site. I don't need all those people knowing about me because in reality, they don't care! I really only "talk" to a handful of them and they are the ones that I can trust.

As for the hugs. I actually gave my dad a hug tonight. I used to make him turn around and I would hug him from the back because I don't want to be hurt by touch. Tonight I gave him a real hug and it felt good. I got your hug as well and I thank you for that!

As for the medications, I quit all the antipsychotics and am just going to start a low dose Prozac. I haven't been on anything for about 3 weeks but I noticed that I am crying at everything. I can be sitting watching tv and just start crying. I have been on and off Prozac for 17 years and my dad told me that he always thought I was better on it. SO, it's worth a shot. If it takes away some of this sadness and fear, then one pill a day won't hurt.

Thanks again for making me laugh, cry (happy tears) and for being there for all of us. You are a God sent in every way!

Permalink Reply by ShoCorona on December 19, 2011 at 11:53am

hey Julie, thanks for commenting on my post and I'm sorry to hear about what you've been going through! It's good to hear that you feel supported by the people on here.... talking is good for the soul :)

Sending you (((((((((big hugs)))))))))))) :)

Permalink Reply by Tallgirl on December 19, 2011 at 7:47pm

I know your dad is important to you, so I am glad you went for the real hug!

Permalink Reply by Cindie on December 18, 2011 at 5:56pm

Yep....get another boyfriend, because he'll never change.

Permalink Reply by Norm on December 18, 2011 at 6:15pm

Hey Cindie.... that's a bit heavy, isn't it? What, so people stay the same for the whole of their lives, and all the stuff that's happened to them, never affected them? I guess that's why there are no bald people on here, upset at.... oh, hang on a minute.... :)

Nah, I'm not having a go at you, really. I just think you can't lump everyone together - we're all different (yep, even the guys). You have to give peeps a break - give 'em a chance to make an arse of themselves, right? "Innocent until proven guilty" is the expression, I believe! :)

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