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So why are there no men who 'prefer thinning hair'?
So I have been thinking - whenever I read that a man prefers a bald women - something about it ... well....it makes me look twice at him - it makes me to be honest look at him with suspicion. Yet, I am fine if a man says he prefers blonds or redheads or admires - say a woman's thick mane of curly black hair. There is not really a difference in some ways and yet in others it does feel different to me.
And then I think - well there are some men who actually prefer bald ladies and yet I have never seen a man say he preferred a lady with thinning hair, or a man who stated that he prefers to see a woman's shinny scalp through her carefully placed lace thin hair - hair such as I have. Sure there are guys who will 'accept it' but none that say the 'prefer it'.
And then I think - well there are some men who actually prefer bald ladies and yet I have never seen a man say he preferred a lady with thinning hair, or a man who stated that he prefers to see a woman's shinny scalp through her carefully placed lace thin hair - hair such as I have. Sure there are guys who will 'accept it' but none that say the 'prefer it'.
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Permalink Reply by Fulvio982 on
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I think that in the society where everything is similar and all the people follows an unique way to look like... some people are attracted by things that make a person unique in her way. I think that we are attracted by things that we cannot explain easily cause there're many more things that shape our image and our characther. We as alopecian surely had so much bad time that make us to watch to people and other things in a personal way that surely it becomes immediately clear as soon as people knows us.
In these years I left out of my targets trying to find the perfect partner.. all the things that we usually would like to find when we had hairs cause I understood that it's not only the image that is important but the way a person live her life, the way she use to talk with you,to look at you.. the calm and the smiles...even if there're things that we would not usually classify as "beauty", to be mature means to not think to these things honeslty.
A bald woman got indeed a unique image that often shaped her character and if the world "would end tomorrow" I think that in the middle of a thousand boring-goodlooking-perfect-usual-women she would indeed act in a different way .... would THINK in a different way... would just be unique and to be unique nowdays is a precious thing.
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Permalink Reply by Tallgirl on
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Yeah...especially a LOT of ladies. Who wants to be a number or belt notch? Surely not the woman who wants to be loved for herself. That's no different than being on someone's list of conquerable all-blonds or all-redheads.
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Permalink Reply by Lili on
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I am suspicious of any men who say they prefer this type of woman or that type and only like to date that. Like a guy who only dates blondes or brunettes. That I find a bit strange. I'm just happy that there are men who have preferences such as intelligent, or kind, or adventurous or quirky... nerdy, sophistocated, tough, sweet, etc.
I mean, sure, yeah we all have preferences. Physical qualities that we prefer when we're attracted to someone. But they shouldn't be at the top of the list, and even women who have thinning hair are someone's "type", but maybe not for reasons having to do with hair. And that's better IMHO. I'd feel extremely uncomfortable knowing that I'm dating a guy who may have initially chosen me 'cause he's got a thing for redheads or half asian chicks. That would just be weird.
Perhaps having thinning hair weeds out some of the shallow jerks we may have attracted otherwise... lol.
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Permalink Reply by Rodeli on
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I'm a woman and I agree with you Daniel. There were a few times when a few little patches of my hair started to grow back and after the initial excitement of that, which rarely happened, I looked in the mirror and thought I didn't look as good or healthy with just a little bit of hair. I don't much like the "unhealthy" look. I shaved it off--haven't had to do that in a gazillion years though. I agree that a bald head sported by a bald woman or man, exudes confidence and sex appeal. Honestly, I find bald men more attractive than the ones who do the comb-overs or just have a ring of hair around the sides and back. But that is just me. Unless my hair grew back in full and healthy looking, I prefer my smooth head. Even my teenage son says he loves to rub my bald head now and then because it is so smooth and shiny. Sometimes at night when he goes to bed, he will kiss my bald head and say "Goodnight, mom. I love you. He has me shave his head almost bald too. He says he likes the way it looks and the attention he gets from the girls at school who love to rub his nearly bald, barely-there-fuzz head. I notice that he actually exudes more confidence himself when he has me shave his head than when it grows out a little bit. People just have to do what is best for them and it's okay to have preferences.
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Permalink Reply by Norm on
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Us guys just can't win.... if we say we prefer bald or thinning, we're weirdos, and if we say it turns us off, we're shallow jerks. *sigh*
Here's an idea.... if someone likes a particular physical aspect of you, why not just accept that? It doesn't matter if it's your bum, boobs, lips, legs... or hair... or head.. :) Just so long as that's not the ONLY reason he's around, what's the problem? Face it, all relationships start off with some form of attraction, whatever that is!
Howzabout if I turn this discussion round.... are there any women out there who like guys with thinning hair or combovers? The girls I know who express a preference say "shave it all off" - sounds like a pretty similar story to me! :)
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I think it is a matter of making a firm decision one way or the other. Leaving spotty growth or creating combovers may be wishful thinking for the person with the hair loss, but it may read as inability to accept reality to the observer. Firm choices, symmetry (as in most cultural styles), complete cover or complete baldness look more intentional. It may take a lot of emotional growth for someone losing hair to get to that acceptance of self or that ability to choose something drastically different, as is evidenced by those who are still asking such questions on this site.
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Amen, Norm, see what I wrote in response to Daniel. When it comes to men I find attractive, if they don't have a full head or nearly full head of hair, then I prefer the bald look. Don't like comb-overs or halo hair. But my biggest pet peeve when it comes to men with hair--can't stand a hairy neck! Yuck! Unless he has long hair to cover it, then keep it clean shaven and "tight" looking as my son would say. It's okay to have preferences when it comes to the law of attraction. Not that I would limit my friendships or relationships with people regardless of their hair or lack thereof, but when it comes to what I find physically attractive, those are my preferences and I'm okay with that. You are right--all relationships start with some level of attraction whether it is physical or some other quality. We are just wired that way.
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I'm not really sure whether I've got that "halo hair", or I'm a saint....
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Well, if there is no hair with the halo, it must be something else glowing around your head ;-)
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Yeah, deffo not a saint - must be blushing from Minah's comment.... or I'm allergic to soap :)
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Permalink Reply by MiNAH on
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NO WAY THINNING COMB OVERS FOR ME!!!
I LOVE THE SHAVEN BALD HEADS ON MEN AND "SEX APPEAL"
"Yes Normee ...you are one of these men ...you turning red yet?"
YOU WON'T EVER CATCH ME WEARING A THIN COMB OVER WITH BALD SCALP SHINING THROUGH. IT WOULD AGE ME TEN YEARS OLDER. SINCE I AM COMFORTABLE ... SO COMPLETELY WITH MY IMAGE ... MEN COME OUT OF THE WOODWORK. IT'S ABOUT CONFIDENCE, NOTHING MORE. SOME MEN ARE JUST NOT ATTRACTED TO BALD WOMEN ... OR THEY HAVE SOCIAL ISSUES ABOUT HAIR LOSS, MEANING CONDITIOND CONFORMISM AND CLOSE MINDEDNESS. ON THE FLIPSIDE, SOME MEN ARE PURELY DRAWN TO OUR BALDNESS AND SEX APPEAL.
AND YES ..."I'M TALKING LOUD"
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