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Winter fashion help
Hello All - I like to go natural (wig free) as much as possible. The problem is that in the winter I cannot get an attractive look without freezing. It is easy for me to look pretty and feminine in the summer because I can wear cute tank tops and skirts. But in the winter, I look like a boy - heavy jeans, heavy sweaters. I even wear a ski cap inside. I look awful. How can I dress pretty and feminine in the winter without putting on a wig or being cold all the time? Any fashion advice will help.
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Permalink Reply by Tallgirl on
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Woven caps with brims plus long earrings.
Felt hat over scarf that has bow or long ties hanging down.
Cotton or light wool scarf (won't slip) from ethnic shop. Turkish scarf tied prettily.
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Permalink Reply by margaret staib on
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Hi Pam, been thinking of you. Hope you are well. One of these days we will meet seeing as we live so close. Groups are still on mondays. Maybe your work schedule has changed? If not gotta make it happen. Ok I have some ideas for you there is a thing called a buff. You can purchase it (lots of colors) from sahalie.com. They also have cool hats. Headcovers.com has hats too. I get a lot of hats, cute, cable knit ones, at marshells and tjmax come cooler weather. (I have seen some now hence in the retail world summer is over). You can also go on amazon.com and just search hats in the apparel section. You could be there for hours but it's like shopping without going anywhere! :) Lastly don't know if your a scarf girl but there is a fabric store on 11o in huntington station and they have tons of cool fabric that I make scarfs out of. I'm like a kid in a candy store. Lots of options. Good luck! Enjoy the rest of summer!
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Permalink Reply by Carla Martini on
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You can try this hat fall. Works like a charm. http://www.russianhair.net/id108.html
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Permalink Reply by Mary on
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This hat fall looks very nice...but it raises the same question I have about wearing wigs...what do you gals who wear wigs or a hat plus a hair fall like this do when you go indoors and it's warm? Or, when you're wearing the hat/hair fall or wig and just get warm due to activity or walking? How do you deal with it?
When I was still trying to wear a wig, I found it REALLY difficult to take the wig off in a public place if I got too warm...If I did, I'd go from being a woman who looked like she had hair, to a baldie, which always attracted attention, and then I'd have to hold the wig in my lap like a dead animal. So, most of the time I'd leave the wig on and just get way too warm and feel the sweat running down my face.
I have found it much easier psychologically to take off a scarf - no big transition from hairy to hairless, and a scarf is easy to fold and tuck into a pocket or purse. I treat my head the same as I treat the rest of my body: if I'm warm, I take off my jacket or sweater; if I'm cold, I put it on. Same with my head...if I'm warm, the scarf is off, if I'm chilly, it's on.
Maybe I'm just weird, but just as I wouldn't wear a wool sweater on a warm day, I don't understand why women should be expected to wear the equivalent of a wool hat all the time, even when it's warm. When you're in a warm building do you leave your coat on?
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Wigs made me feel like a fraud, too...glad to hear someone else say that.
I've found that since losing my hair and going out bald all the time, I'm paying WAY more attention to how I dress. When not working, I was always a tennis shoes, T-shirt, jeans gal...very casual and not particularly feminine. Now I'm buying more nice tops and skirts (still comfortable, but definitely feminine and colorful), and I always wear earrings. When it's cool, I wear a scarf.
Mary
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See the makeovers in the latest O magazine for some great ideas for the office in colder months. I could see some matching fedora-type feminine hats going with many of them.
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Permalink Reply by Dominique Cleopatra on
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I never feel like a fraud in my "new hair."
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That's great...I think most women here who wear "new hair" don't feel like a fraud. That's wonderful and I'm happy for them. Some of us do, though, and I was glad to know I'm not the only one.
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Permalink Reply by Djuna on
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I like wearing newsboy caps. Pair it with a knit dress with leggings or thick stockings, a wool dress or long shirt (with or without belt), some knee high boots and voila....all women. I also second the big hoop earrings. And the newsboy caps come in very girly patterns if you look around.
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Permalink Reply by Gail on
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Wikipedia's "Fraud" : intentional deception made for personal gain or to damage another individual.
I wear wigs to feel better about myself and to look more like my former self. Whether I "deceive" anyone is irrelevant and secondary, and I certainly don't "gain" anything by it. And, the only time I feel warm or overheated in my wig is when I'm working out, but I did with my real hair also. It stays on, sweaty or not. 'Nuff said.
As far as head fashion goes, there are some really cute hats out there that would be acceptable for indoor wear and would coordinate with the whole outfit. I am not a "hat person," but I have always envied girls who could wear them and look so cute.
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I didn't mean to offend by echoing the use of the word "fraud". The sense I was using it is one that's also in the dictionary: intent to appear to be something that you're not. In a wig, I feel like I'm trying to pass as something I no longer am - someone who has hair. This is how it is for ME - not necessarily (and obviously) not how it is for many other women. As I've said in blogs and in TV interviews, I completely support women who prefer to wear wigs. Believe me, if my apparently overly-warm scalp could stand them, I'd wear one, too. ( ;-)
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I thought about this long ago, as a teen with alopecia. If being a fraud also means use of contacts and glasses, a bra, make-up, and even clothing (hey, we were born naked), then I guess all are frauds in this society. Even cutting, perming or coloring hair would be committing fraud. What of braces? Prostheses? Surgery to repair deformities or cure diseases? I decided then that I was okay to defy nature with a wig, because I did so in other areas of beauty and culture.
I spent most of my life and made most of my true friendships when haired...all my photos of major life events show hair...so, why not let my loved ones feel comfortable that I am still the "me" they knew? It makes conversations flow on things other than my head or my alopecia. It doesn't have to be all about me, just because my challenges are on the outside. Others have bigger issues on the inside.
As to now, I choose to keep conversations at work and at shops on the task at hand rather than on my head. At home, no wig. My kids have grown and moved, so there are no unexpected guests. And, should I ever have a "beau" again face-to-face, I would hope that I could relax without a wig. This should apply either way, meaning I should be able to accept someone else's hair loss as well. But hey...I may still wear clothes!
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