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Permalink Reply by Larry Barbee on January 31, 2011 at 3:27am

Yes, there are men who don't mind. There are also men who find bald women attractive with an ecxotic beauty. I know because I'm one of them.
Don't get me wrong. In looking for someone that I'd like to fall in love with, marry and have a wonderful life with, there are a whole lot of other issues that rate above physical good looks.
I need a potential mate to share my Faith, have same values and world view. She's got to hug and hold me just as I would her on days that bad things happen. Things like a sense of humor, truly being able to love, having compassion for others.
Sitting around starring at her bald head will get old after awhile no matter how pretty it looks - we have to do things together, share some hobbies and activities.
If I met such a woman, then her baldness would be a wonderful "extra" not something as important as the things I listed above it.
God bless,
Larry

Permalink Reply by Julie G on January 31, 2011 at 8:13am

If you find one Solange, ask him if he has a brother =)

Permalink Reply by Margo on January 31, 2011 at 12:31pm

Hi Solange -
I'm sorry to say that I have not found love since losing my hair 3yrs ago at 45. As much as peope/friends say it doesn't matter, it does. When I was married and had hair men were always flirting with me. I don't know which one it was being married or having hair!? And its hard to say since my divorce and losing my hair was all pretty much at the same time. Anyway, I have not had ANYONE flirt with me since.
I'm sure it is possible since there are many women out there with Alopecia and in relationships. I hope our time will come, we just have to be patient and hopeful. We just haven't met the right ones yet.
Hang in there and in the meantime lets work on loving ourselves! LOL

Permalink Reply by Kevin Woolen on January 31, 2011 at 8:15pm

I fell in love with a women I met on this site. We have been together for 8 months and I am in love with her for sure. I guess I'm lucky to have met someone so compatible in such a random way.

Permalink Reply by Jon Knight on February 2, 2011 at 2:31pm

I agree, I havent been chatted up or approached in 5 months since having shaved head, it definately does make a difference. However I think the main difference is your confidence as like me you dont oozze that sparkle you once did

Permalink Reply by Anthony Fisher on February 8, 2011 at 3:42pm

well I'm a male and I don't mind. Beauty is in the eye of beholder and lays within. x

Permalink Reply by Andie on February 18, 2011 at 6:04pm

Yes, there are men who don't mind. I've met so many women with alopecia who are in relationships and have gotten married, that frankly I've lost count. And if a man rejects you because of a physical trait that you have no control over, then he will reject you even if you did have a full head of hair. He may not reject you at first, but his true nature would eventually reveal itself. Shallow jerks are shallow jerks, whether you have alopecia or not.

Permalink Reply by Lesley Hughes on February 21, 2011 at 2:48pm

Andrea you are so right and thank you I had not really thought of it in that way before but you are SO VERY RIGHT :0)

Permalink Reply by shanec on June 7, 2011 at 1:54am

i must agree with both you ladies!

Permalink Reply by Solange on February 26, 2011 at 7:53pm

I know that shallow jerks are shallow jerks... I just wish someone would realize there is a limit to how many times a girl can hear "Now that I see you, there is no spark for me" before you really start to wonder if it is you or them. I have lost track of the number of people who have assured me that it's not me, that I am allegedly a wonderful person and such but I am really starting to wonder if I am being lied to or if all of the single men over 40 in my city really are shallow jerks.

Permalink Reply by Fotini Constantina Spero on March 11, 2011 at 9:01am

Yes, there are men who don't mind! I have had this condition all my life and shunned relationships and real intimacy because I did not want to deal with the possible rejection. However, since I have begun to accept myself and this condition I have had two long and serious relationships with wonderful men. They did not work out but that had nothing to do with hair! Don't give up, they are out there!

Permalink Reply by Carmen Dayhoff on April 13, 2011 at 8:47pm

I met my dude online. I posted my pics with "hair" and without and I talked about Alopecia in my profile. I actually had a ton of responses and talked to several guys who were interested in me in spite and because of having no hair. I think that there are plenty of guys out there that are just fine with it. I also think that you have to give the "vibe" that YOU are fine with it. If you seem to be insecure about it, guys don't wanna mess with you trying to be responsible for helping out your self esteem. My dude keeps trying to talk me into going places without my wig. We've talked about it and I would like to sometime, so we are in agreement, but I just can't get myself to do it yet. His encouragement and confidence is empowering though.

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