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My first blog post!
This will be a GREAT place for me to vent, dispense advice and put in writing all of my musings and ponderings. Feel free to leave comments!
Today is about my current musings and ponderings:
I read a quote once that "those who mind, don't matter - and those who matter, don't mind". Not only does this apply to alopecia, but to many other facets of our life, whether it is our personality quirks, past indiscretions or current situations. It helps to reflect on this truth when I am needing or wanting to open up to others and / or stand up for myself.
It is difficult for me to take risks and venture into the great unknown sometimes. But I have to keep telling myself that whether you succeed or fall on your face, you will feel much worse if you rest on your laurels and don't even try. And when I do fail, I tell myself "at least you had the guts to take a shot at it!"
It is tough to be a single woman these days, especially when you have alopecia. Not that it has been a problem in my dating life. Most of the guys I have dated or been in serious relationships with don't mind that I wear a wig. The problems stem from my own insecurities. I look at other women who also have alopecia who are married, engaged or are in a relationship, and I wonder how they manage to maintain their confidence level. I know that is NOT impossible to do. In fact, I was more secure and confident back when I was a teenager (and my social life was fantastic). And I still had alopecia.
I feel like I have "lost my mojo" or something. Maybe it is because I am in the working world now and put a lot of energy into my job? Perhaps it is because I lost some of my idealism as I grew older? Maybe I am still subconciously hurting over a failed college relationship that lasted for two years and was leading up to marriage?
Anyway, those are my thoughts. I have set some great goals for myself, and that has always been motivational for me. I have started jogging again, and even though I am physically in pain while my body gets used to it :-), I am STOKED that I am getting into the habit again. I am also striving to create a better balance between my career and my personal life. I know that my employer appreciates my hard work, but TOO much of that is unhealthy and in the long run will only hurt my productivity not only at work, but in all areas of my life.
Until next time...
Today is about my current musings and ponderings:
I read a quote once that "those who mind, don't matter - and those who matter, don't mind". Not only does this apply to alopecia, but to many other facets of our life, whether it is our personality quirks, past indiscretions or current situations. It helps to reflect on this truth when I am needing or wanting to open up to others and / or stand up for myself.
It is difficult for me to take risks and venture into the great unknown sometimes. But I have to keep telling myself that whether you succeed or fall on your face, you will feel much worse if you rest on your laurels and don't even try. And when I do fail, I tell myself "at least you had the guts to take a shot at it!"
It is tough to be a single woman these days, especially when you have alopecia. Not that it has been a problem in my dating life. Most of the guys I have dated or been in serious relationships with don't mind that I wear a wig. The problems stem from my own insecurities. I look at other women who also have alopecia who are married, engaged or are in a relationship, and I wonder how they manage to maintain their confidence level. I know that is NOT impossible to do. In fact, I was more secure and confident back when I was a teenager (and my social life was fantastic). And I still had alopecia.
I feel like I have "lost my mojo" or something. Maybe it is because I am in the working world now and put a lot of energy into my job? Perhaps it is because I lost some of my idealism as I grew older? Maybe I am still subconciously hurting over a failed college relationship that lasted for two years and was leading up to marriage?
Anyway, those are my thoughts. I have set some great goals for myself, and that has always been motivational for me. I have started jogging again, and even though I am physically in pain while my body gets used to it :-), I am STOKED that I am getting into the habit again. I am also striving to create a better balance between my career and my personal life. I know that my employer appreciates my hard work, but TOO much of that is unhealthy and in the long run will only hurt my productivity not only at work, but in all areas of my life.
Until next time...
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Comment by Dominique on September 29, 2008 at 10:10pm
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Hi Andrea,
I empathise with so much of what you have said. I too was more confident and secure when I was a teenager, and I have also recently given up a long term relationship that I thought was leading to marriage.
I think part of losing the confidence of our teenage-hood is that everyone mellows when they grow up. There aren't as many distractions as there were when we were younger, and there are more real responsibilities. I think that the blow of reality also comes into play because, well for me at the moment, I'm realising the reality of having Alopecia my entire life - something I don't think I've ever thought about before.
Setting goals is important, and the losing of your mojo... just remember, it can come back :c) It's a little lost, not gone.
Good luck with your new goals, and keep venting here :c)
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Comment by Andie on November 9, 2008 at 10:17am
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Thank you so much for your comments and advice! I always appreciate the feedback, and you have shared some great nuggets of wisdom :-)
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