My names Tina. I just turned 18, I was diagnosed with AA when I was 17. I really just want to talk to someone who is having the same struggles as I am. Its very hard not personally knowing anyone with this. I still have some of my hair, I just wish it was all of it. I'm so embarrassed to have to wear extensions, I try not to tell anyone. I will be honest: I completely HATE alopecia. Its been hard coming to terms with. I know I will eventually feel better about it. I see people on here that can shave their heads, and go out in public completely bald and be proud of it. And I feel so selfish since I still have some hair. Some people have it so much worse than me, and I feel like I'm being a brat for hating this so much. I've seriously considered a wig because I feel as if I will eventually lose more and more of my hair there's just so many questions I have about wigs: like how easily do they fall off? Some days I'm completely fine with AA, like I'm unique and its just something God thought I could handle. But other days, I hate the way I look. I get moody, and I'm scared I will never find a husband that is okay with my condition. My boyfriend now, of a year and a half still does not know. I've devated telling him, and I've also devated just ending things so he can be with someone who has hair and not have to deal with me. Halfway through my senior year I stopped hanging out with friends, and going to a lot of social events.. I didn't even go to my senior prom because of the excessive hairloss I was experiencing. I want to come to terms with this, and be happy with my appearance. I don't want to sound like a selfish little girl. This blog was just a way for me to vent and express myself considering everyone who knows I have this: does not understand. They say 'its just hair' blahhh :( I see all these people on here with way worse conditions than me, strong as can be. And I truly hope that I can find that strength, too.

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Comment by tints on July 14, 2011 at 3:12pm
Thanks tallgirl, once I get a new car I willll be back on a computer :)
And ktownnana, I just requested a catalogue from paula young, thanks for the idea :)
Comment by Ktownnana on July 14, 2011 at 9:33am
Tina, I'm glad to see that you're already looking at wigs for a back up. I wish I would have done this months before I started wearing one. You can also get free catalogues from Paula Young (I think the Jacqueline Smith wigs are the prettiest ones from Paula Young).
Comment by Tallgirl on July 14, 2011 at 6:53am
Libraries have free internet use, as do some banks. Colleges also have free computer labs.
Comment by tints on July 14, 2011 at 1:20am
Rose thank you. I have been considering purchasing a not too expensice wig, or maybe a half wig or whatever... just in case! I've heard stories of people losing almost alll of their hair in a rapid amount of time.. And since that's a possibility, I want to have a back up right away, so I don't have to wait around for one. Anytime I get a chance I look online at wig places. The only internet access I have is through my phone so its limited but definitely enough to know what I'm looking at. Thank you for your inspirational words :)
Comment by tints on July 13, 2011 at 2:00pm
Thanks! Your comment made me laugh :) its soo great to receive this support and advice. I agree, the hatred is not healthy. I was just having one of those days. Most days I'm alright and accepting of it! Thanks again :)
Comment by tints on July 13, 2011 at 1:50am
I will definitely look at that site! I appreciate the guidance, and advice from everyone. I will keep you posted definitely! I will be a part of this site for the rest of my life, even if I regrow all of my hair!! I haven't even logged onto my facebook since I joined AW! I relate to it so much better, and having all of you to help me cope has raised my spirts, even in just one day! Thanks a million! I seriously do appreciate it!! :)
Comment by Ktownnana on July 13, 2011 at 12:35am
Tina, I am very impressed with Kathy at galleryofwigs.com. You can email her a picture of you and she will recommend what style, color she thinks would look best on you. I like the monofilaments because it looks like your real scalp showing thru on your wig. I purchased 2 from Kathy this week for about the price of 1 synthetic wig not being a monofilament. I also prefer the synthetic over the human hair, because you can just shake them, put them on and you're good to go. Getting ready in 30 minutes is amazing. I actually liked a particular style wig and told Kathy about it and she said she thought it was prettier in the picture than the actual wig. She will be very honest and open with you. I had to leave a voice mail message the first time I called her, but she returned my call in less than 5 minutes. Take a few minutes and browse her web site and see the beautiful selection she has. I shave my head because like I stated before, my wigs just seem to stay on better, plus it is much cooler. That would be a decision you would have to personally make. I have had people in restaurants ask me who does my hair and I get compliments all the time about my wigs. I am so glad you were able to tell your boyfriend and he was completely understanding--that has to be a huge weight off your shoulders. Personally, I've never had a problem with my wig falling off and I rarely think about it. Good luck in whatever you decide to do and please keep us posted.....we are all in this together.....and we care!
Comment by Tallgirl on July 13, 2011 at 12:27am
I kind of think the hairline of wigs can be obvious...especially when lit up by a camera flash. Besides, my eyebrows are sparse and at different heights, so I opt for wigs with bangs that come down to meet the top of my glasses. Problems solved!
Comment by tints on July 13, 2011 at 12:16am
thank you all so much. It means a lot to me to hear advice from others who have experience with alopecia. This site is already helping me SO much. I actually just told my boyfriend- and you were right. He was completely understanding. I'm grateful!

I'd like to hear some opinions about kinds of wigs, and what would be the best choice of wig? If I were to decide shaving my head- I am extremely active. My biggest fear is it falling off or if it gets pulled it'll come off. I'd be mortified! Thanks again everyone! :)
Comment by Karen Smith on July 12, 2011 at 11:54pm
Hi, My daughter was a senior in highschool when her alopecia came back with a vengence. She lost all of her hair in a 2 week period. Fortunately I bought her a very good partial wig and she was able to continue her activities. She is going into her second year in college and she is not missing out on life. She wears lace wigs and tapes them on. She changes them every 2-3 days. She swims and sleeps in them. She has a ton of friends and we just took ten of them to the lake for the weekend for her 20th birthday. She wakeboards, dives off the boat and plays hard. She has a boyfriend and he knows. When they were broken up last semester she was asked out all the time, some of those boys knew and some did not. She hates alopecia but says you have to find a way to be happy no matter what happens to you. She inspires me and the people around her. It is a tremendous loss but it does not have to stop you from having a full life.

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