Hi all.
My mother is not taking my hair loss well. To be perfectly honest, she's an emotional wreck over it. It is not enough for her to know that I've adjusted to the fact that some day I might be bald and wearing a wig. It is not enough for her to know that I've managed to overcome my sadness. She says that she's proud of how well I'm taking it, but sometimes she finds it hard to believe that I can truly be as accepting of it as I claim to be. The truth is, I was depressed at first. When I first noticed the hair loss I pushed any thoughts of baldness and wigs and hair pieces as far out of my mind as possible. Lately, however, I've been looking at wigs at various different website and it doesn't seem to be the end of the world to me anymore. Sure, I'd rather have my own hair, but I've learned to accept what may be and move on with my life. I don't want to torture myself over something that can easily be fixed with a wig.

What makes me feel bad is how my mom is taking it. She used to have such a lust for life, but now she's just numb. I call it depressed, but she insists that she's just "sad". To me, it's more than sad. It's been over a year since we first noticed my hair loss and she's still crying and examining my hair on a nightly basis. I asked her if she wants to see a psychologist to talk about it, but she said no because a psychologist won't stop my hair loss and put hair on my head. Just last night she was lying in bed with a glazed look in her eye, almost in tears yet again, saying that I'm a good kid and I didn't deserve this. She's afraid that I won't meet a man and live a happy, married life should I lose my hair. I tried to tell her that that simply isn't true, that's she's more critical of me than a man who loves me would be, and that there are plently of bald women with husbands. She's trying to convince herself that I'm right in what I'm saying, but it's not working. She claims that she's trying "so hard" to accept this and get over it, but she just can't.

I'm really saddened that my mother is willing to let something as silly as hair ruin out relationship. I don't want to stop talking to her, but on the same note I can't allow her to keep bringing me down just because she can't accept it.

Have any of you been in this situation before or can any of you offer me some advice? I'm really at a loss for words.