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Comment by Solange De Santis on August 12, 2016 at 11:08am

I find it interesting that the discussion has developed into whether one feels comfortable or not with hair or without. I am not ashamed of the way I look. I have gone au naturel everywhere  - on jobs, in public appearances, on television, etc..

However, this particular contract I have now is in the nuclear power industry. We discuss radiological contamination and safety all the time. Do you see why I feel I do not want to present as a bald woman at a conference or presentation in large groups of people, when I don't have an opportunity to explain my condition? Yes, I know there is no direct connection between radiation and hair loss. It's just when I wear hair, there are no questions.

I really value this discussion and all the viewpoints.

Comment by SabineTawni on August 12, 2016 at 9:25am

I am with Pamela on this one.  There is no way that I will ever "embrace my alopecia"!  But I do support and admire those who are willing and able to go out without wigs.  I think we all have to find our own way on this journey.

Comment by AnnS on August 12, 2016 at 8:56am

Jeannie, you will undoubtedly find that they may factor your courage and fortitude into their hiring decision! Good luck and let us know when you get the position.

I do marketing with a salon owner who specializes in wigs and various hair prosthetics. She says some clients need to wear a wig, others do not. Some have one only for "special" occasions, others wear theirs even at home alone. There are a number of teens and young women on this site who wear them all the time; no one sees them without hair. I think to each her (or his) own.

Ann

Comment by BrianH1972 on August 12, 2016 at 1:54am

Very good advice I have learned on here. No employer wants to be discriminatory but they do want to know if a potential hire might be serious ill and missing work. I would simply suggest as others have said that you address it within the context of a posed question. Maybe tell a funny story about it or talk about how you have learned to overcome obstacles due to alopecia, or how you have gained strength and resilience from it. Employers are people. They are often judging not only your credentials but what kind of person they will want to deal with, be around for many hours. Someone who has a strong work ethic, willing to learn and who is pleasant goes a very long way.

I do think this part does matter. I notice your profile pics mostly have you with a wig. If that is where you currently are wit your confidence or comfortableness than I would listen to Pamela and wear it. If however you are like many in here who have accepted and have become more comfortable in public without it than I would say go without. It simply should be determined by where you are with this.

We all know and seen many men who are obsessed with not going bald. Wigs, plugs, combovers and other products consume them. I never have a problem with going bald. I just shaved it.

Comment by Solange De Santis on August 12, 2016 at 12:01am

Please do. Best of luck.

Comment by Lovely butterfly on August 11, 2016 at 11:04pm

Jeannie...

I am SOOO proud of you!! Good luck with your interviewing process. You're confidence and strength will shine through!!   GO GET YOUR JOB!!

Comment by Jeannie Terrel on August 11, 2016 at 10:51pm

Thank you everyone for the advice. I will not wear a wig no matter the position. I don't cover my  bald head for anyone or any reason other than sun and cold weather. I will just bring it up when they ask me to tell them about my self. I will let you know how it goes.

Comment by Susan on August 11, 2016 at 8:29pm

There is no analyzing of the workplace.All workplaces hire based on things outside of hair.

Yes, one must be clean tidy and appropriately dressed. 

All work places are fit for all qualified people. If they are not,we will stand up and shake things up.

thank you.I can go on and on.

Comment by Susan on August 11, 2016 at 8:10pm

We are here to empower and be empowered.There's a campaign called Empowered Beauty.It's actually to promote a fragrance. However,it speaks to the modern woman, who may not always do things to please others.But she is living in an honest and loving way.That woman is me. 

And yes,all i know is positivity. Life is too short to get stuck and wallow in sorrow.Hair does not define a woman.

I read an article once about a very successful banker in Isreal, who has alopecia universalist and has always made it a point to tell potential employers. The results were always positive.

She has never been turned down because she has a bald head.

Reality checks are for those who want to remain in bondage.There is Power in being bold.

I don't mind answering questions,because i also want to raise awareness.When i strut in public,i think of young women going off to college loosing their hair.

A bald woman is no more of a distraction than a woman than a woman with hair.

Someone once told me that i should go to an all women's gym. I replied No! I'm going to the same gym i have always gone too.A gym where there are men and women.

As a matter of fact, i go anywhere i choose.

You know what makes me sad? some people self impose ideas onto themselves.I see it here on this forum more than in my everyday reality.

Dear Jeanne,you are beautiful.Stay strong and surround yourself with positive people.

Comment by andrea t on August 11, 2016 at 5:57pm

Ideally, being true to your own set of values & needs will work out best, but if your method is to weigh others opinions and views because it helps you to decide what to do, fine. However, remember, we all relate from our own: sense of self, frame of reference, & value system. I think that has to be kept in mind by the recipient of advice.

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