Have you ever walked down the road, sat in a restaurant, or been in Safeway and seen someone who's wearing a wig? Most of us are hard to spot because we have spent years trying to make ourselves look like everyone else... but much like LGBT (lesbian, gay, bi-sexual, transgendered) have "Gay-dar" I think those of us with Alopecia have "wig-dar". What I'm worried about is that I'm perpetuating the fear of being discovered.
I know for me personally I prefer to tell my story than be outed because someone has noticed that I don't have a natural hair line, that my hair is a little dry, or that my eyebrows are penciled in. But the first thing that comes into my head when i see someone in a wig (or wearing a head scarf) is "are they like me?" And maybe its just me whose ultra sensitive to noticing wigs (love to know if you are the same). I find myself talking a few glances at this person trying to figure them out. In my head I'm thinking "wow that's a cute look", "I wonder if they notice me", "I should tell her where I get my wigs from", "Maybe they know Linda too (the awesome woman i order my wigs from). But maybe to them they are feeling vulnerable or exposed because they dont know whats going on in my head.
I hear all the time that people are surprised that I wear a wig and it makes me feel good to know that I can pass for "normal" in the outside world, but in moments like that I wish the world could just stop and I could remove my hair and say hi to a woman who's either just like me or facing something much more difficult.

I would love to know if anyone else out there feels the same or has had similar experiences?

Sorry I have been gone so long.

Love you all-Kate Anderson