After having been bald for more than 6 years you would think that I would finally have accepted my hair loss but apparently I haven't (even though I thought I had). As some of you guys know I recently graduated high school and in a few weeks I will be starting college. All of these milestones have released a whole rush of bad feelings and thoughts towards my alopecia that I had thought were almost completely gone, which has really freaked me out. I guess it started on the day of my college orientation where all students there for orientation were expected to share a dorm room since orientation lasts two days. Thankfully I have Chloe (my twin) and we managed to get there early and get a room together, but it made me think..what if we hadn't? I know I certainly wouldn't have been okay with sharing my alopecia with a total stranger or trying to sleep with my wig on. On the very first day meeting some of my fellow new students I was hit with the same thoughts that I had when I changed high schools...here goes another round of not necessarily lying but not fully being myself either. I feel so torn into two directions that it has just led to 3 weeks of extreme sadness and depression and anxiety that I can't seem to beat. I have been wearing only a bandanna at the barn that I ride at for almost two months now (I decided that this summer I wasn't going to suffer in GA humidity) and while it doesn't bother me to wear it there, I almost had a panic when I realized that I had forgotten one day that after going to the barn we were going to the outlet malls and I had forgotten my wig. These two places are about an hour apart with our house not in the middle so I didn't say anything to my family (because they would have been more than happy to drive home first) on the way and only after did they know that I had been really uncomfortable with it. I don't know if it is because I have quite a few other health problems that severely impact my life already, but I haven't been able to shut off the little voice in my head that keeps saying "why this too?". It doesn't help either that my identical twin sister has a full thick mane of hair that has never shown any signs of falling out while I am completely bald from head to toe. I don't know what to do anymore because I am tired of wearing wigs all the time but I am also a relatively shy person that gets very nervous when all eyes are on me, and I feel like every eye is turned on me when I wear a bandanna or go without even that. I'm tired of always having to have a plan for going to places like theme parks or swimming pools, I'm tired of feeling like people think I'm a freak, I'm tired of having to decide when someone is firmly planted enough in my life to know about my alopecia, I'm tired of constantly worrying about whether or not my wig looks real enough, and I am tired of watching tv or even just looking at people walking down the street that have hair and thinking how much I want it. I just don't know what to do anymore. What do you do when you don't think you will ever be completely comfortable around anyone besides your closest family or be able to be completely you around anyone besides them? I just don't know how much more suck I can take in my life before it crushes me.
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