Comment by Dominique Cleopatra on November 1, 2009 at 7:48pm

I haven't been dating either, but then again I haven't really been looking. I would suggest joining groups such as book clubs,a gym, a cooking class, kyaking lessons, basically whatever you have maybe always wanted to try, learn more about, or get back into. There you will meet like minded people for friendship and possibly more in a low pressure environment where you already have a springboard in which to launch your initial conversation off of, your shared interest. As long as you're not joining the Mile High club I think you will find your "getting to know you phase" will be a lot less sexually charged. Oh and if you are looking mainly to meet the opposite sex obviously focus on activities that interest you that are also likely to interest interesting single men. Bowling league perhaps? Well I'm sure you'll think of something. Meeting someone through a friend can also be wildly successful as well--So ask around and let people know you're ready to get back in that dating pool and then dive right in just make sure you're not in the "shallow end" if you catch my drift. I was actually thinking of starting a matchmaking service something discrete and personal unlike match.com or eharmony something reminiscent of an old-fashioned neighborhood matchmaker. Anyway I digress, I hope this helps, let me know and Good Luck!! Anyone else have any dating ideas?

Comment by Andrea on November 1, 2009 at 8:12pm

It's not your imagination. Even so called Christian men expect a woman to put out. I'm 38 and have never been in a major relationship, but my last one made all the noises of wanting permanence, and I fell for the charms only to be tossed aside. He sited my health is a reason for dumping me...and the fact that I wasn't argumentative enough...and there was no "spark." Sadly this was the first time I ever really got involved with a professing Christian, and no one has hurt me more. I guess I expected too much, but my non Christian male friends all want to kill him. They keep saying "You don't treat any woman like that, but especially not you!" That makes me feel good.

My confidence has taken a major hit in the last 6 years. I walk with a limp, I struggle with my health. I looked at the photos I posted here...I look sick. Having a man tell me that I am worthless in word and deed has basically really done me in. On the plus side, it is his birthday today and I know for a fact he's miserable. :-)

Okay, that's not very nice and definitely un-Christian, but it's what I feel.

Where to go? I'm apparently not the person to ask, LOL!

Comment by Nick Janda on November 2, 2009 at 6:50pm

Wow carol, you read my mind, I too am getting out of a long-term relationship of 5 1/2 years and find it difficult to find someone whos not just in it for a "good time" or a drunken one nite stand. I dont know what it is but I cant attract a nice woman I can date, its more the skeezy bar fly types. But, I guess thats probably because I recently moved back to my home town and the only thing to do here is go to the bar...and I dont know if you ever been to a small town Minnesota bar but there not as great as they sound, lol. But anyways I do agree with you that people have become more sexually minded over the last decade. And, I feel out of touch with the dating world somtimes too. So, your not the only one. Good luck!

Comment by Carol on November 3, 2009 at 8:34am

I know what you mean Nick! I live in a small enough university city and the only thing to do here is hit the bars (but don't go during school season or you'll have kids climbing across your table cause there's no room to walk). I do stuff outside of the house but usually take the kids with me and there's no way I'm getting into anything too deep with them around. If I get back to school soon it be for online classes but if that doesn't get approved then I'll be moving and taking full time classes in September which would allow me to get out and meet new people. I'll wait and see like I do with everything else. Thanks.

Comment by Tallgirl on November 3, 2009 at 11:42pm

57 and still waiting to see what or who works...

Comment by lynne on November 5, 2009 at 5:34pm

im 28 and ive bn lookin a long time, and since this alopecia hit me in april i now feel it'll be yrs from now that i would meet someone, i havent met any decent guys in a long time, and if i do there always taken, its just not fair, and wat guy is gonna want a bald girl :(

Comment by Carol on November 5, 2009 at 7:59pm

Don't be so hard on yourself Lynne, there are just as many guys out there that want a bald woman as there are men out there that have hair fetishes and even more men out there that can be persuaded. The decent ones are just a little harder to find. I've had my share of run-ins with bald fetishists both male and female and usually feel uncomfortable in a situation where I'm only adored for my lack of hair rather than on my personality or whatever trait I may have that someone finds cute or adorable. Remember I also have 3 kids living with me that prevent me from going out and meeting people a lot of the time, paying for daycare is not an option at the moment. We will eventually find that someone but I have a habit of being rather impatient (anyone out there think that is cute? lol). Guess we have to keep our chins up. :)

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