You always hear : dont judge a person til you walked a mile in their shoes. This has become so apparent this past week, with my friends and family. You really cant blame or judge another for the choices they have made in life. We each have our own issues, adversities and ghosts in the closets. We each have made the best decisions with the resources we had at the time with the knowledge in which we had it. How can you sit in your glass house and judge them for those choices. I personally grew up listening to friends and family blame my mom for my alopecia. I was called a freak and considered ill. My mom struggled to find out what was happening to me. Only to know 20 some years later, there was nothing to be done. It is what it is. The resources then were not available to know any different. And to be blamed or ridiculed for it is non-compassionate. Same speaking to blame your parents for the way you were raised is non-compassionate and unjust. As a child you are unaware the issues that your parents would be facing that made them make the choices they made. But as a child or adolescent or adult we control our own actions and decisions. We might be influenced by our parents but at the end of the day we control the decisions we make.
Also to compare my hardships against your own is not showing compassion. For me to say you no idea what rough is is unfair. What my hardships are would be completely different then yours; of course. This is my life and that is your life. What is difficult for me would not be the same as someone else. The decisions I made for those hardships would be different then the decisions you would make. Its doesnt make it better or worse, it just makes it different. You just have to know in your heart that you made the best decisions with the knowledge and resources at the time and know in your heart that someone else has done the same for themselves. Dont judge your family, dont judge your friends and dont judge your neighbour. Just believe they have done what they know is best for them. Stand by them to support their decisions, offer advice if wanted. To blame is only to throw stones at a glass house in which you are living in. It is very true .... "dont judge a person til you walked a mile in their shoes" not just today, but yesterday and tomorrow.