Comment by Rodeli on November 1, 2011 at 11:06pm

Hi Awesome! It may be hard to believe, but it DOES get better. Not always in the time we wish, but it does. Ah, to read your words brought back SO MANY memories of my days in school. I know EXACTLY what you are going through and know the feelings. But as you stated, with time you will make new friends and your wearing a wig will become old news and after awhile the kids will not make as big a deal. Especially as you get into the upper most grades--11th and 12th. Do you have a way of securing your wig to your head so that it does not come off so easily in case some of the class clowns try pulling it off? I would use some type of adhesive (tape or body glue) to help it stay on. Someone would have to yank pretty hard to get it to come off and in that case, it would be the same as someone assaulting you. I would also talk to your guidance counselor and a few trusted teachers for added support and to keep a watchful eye. But peer pressure is also great. Get the support of your friends and travel in groups as you move through the halls. I found these things helped me. Unfortunately, it is rare to find a wig (even the most expensive ones) that one cannot tell it is a wig--the hairline and part are usually the giveaway. Try to conceal your hairline or part with bangs or scarves or hats to draw attention away. When kids ask you if your hair is real or if it is a wig, just ask them "why are you asking?" Put the question back on them. If they are just being nosy, you can say "It's my hair and that is all you need to know." If you are feeling spunky, you can say "Of course, it's my hair--I paid a lot of money for it" Wink and walk away. Or you can just be honest and say I have an autoimmune disease called Alopecia where my immune system attacks my hair follicles and causes my hair to fall out. That is why I wear a wig. If you lost your hair, what would you do?" Making them think about what it would be like to be in your shoes may make them think twice about making fun of you. It might be worth a try. Unfortunately, even once you are out of school, you will always have the nosy people who feel entitled to ask you personal questions. You just have to figure out what is the best way to handle them for you. I usually go by my mood and the circumstance at the time. Hang in there and if I can encourge you in anyway, please let me know.

Comment by x3Awesome'TTx3 on November 1, 2011 at 11:23pm

Thank you! & for now on if someone asks me about my hair I will respond and say "Why are you asking?" its gonna take alot of confidence but I am willing to try. And one question. Do you think im a good writier? I want to be a writer when I grow up but I dont know if im any good. I think I am but I want others thoughts too.

Comment by darlin1925 on November 2, 2011 at 12:05pm

I know you are honey and you are way stronger then you think just look at all you have already done with your life and I love reading everything you write just as I read others funny but before I came here you would never had seen anything about me or my life I have always been private but I am finding I feel so safe here that I can say how I feel and there will be kids in your school now or another school that have nothing better then to upset someone it a great mark for them if they hit there mark.My school days were different I was a California kid and talked liked a California kid till my Dad came home from work one day and said family lets pack up and move back to my home where I was born to Arkansas what I said Arkansas where is that I was ten and had a big Sister and Brother who watched my every move even if they picked on me at home that was ok because it was them or so they thought but anybody at school that so much as touched me my Brother was there before things got out of hand and he would tell the boy jerking my chain if he needed a lesson in manners he always said no and left then I was in the 8th grade thought I was so grown up my grades were good I was the class clown played jokes on everyone even teachers it was a tiny school ten to a class till the day I almost was half way through the 8th grade and an older boy took my heart I married him at just 15 I remember setting on my bed in my wedding dress and my Daddy came to me and said hey now why do I see tears in my little Girls eyes I wanted so bad to say Daddy please don't let me get married I don't want to leave you and Mom instead he told me if I wouldn't marry that old boy he would buy me a horse something I wanted all my life I should have take the horse and stayed home till I was old enough and was really in love like now.Funny looking back I was teased for another reason all togeather because at that time I still had hair but I was small and had lots of hair the boys found e cute so one or the other were always after me the popular kids wanted me in there group but they were mean and caused the so called nerds to often cry and always did mean things so I became a nerd myself I walked with them played and was really good friends with them then the school bully come to me at lunch time a teacher was always in the lunch room as my eyes searched for him I didn't see him that day the bully told me to get up he was big and he was mean so I stood up hands on my hips and said take your best shot because you will only get one he said hey I don't want to hurt you he said I wanted to see if you would ask your pop if I could take you to see a movie The wind left my lungs I thought I was going to fall and I said I can already tell you my Dad would kick you out of my house so fast you would never know what happened and my dad would have he was big and strong and I don't know one person that in some way did not fear my dad out of respect he said you get the bluff in on them first from the first day on and for the rest of your life you never have to look over your shoulder I tried that and had a ew people that seen me that way but I was all talk never did I have one fight in or out of school I think people left me alone because my dad was at the school more then he was home he was my bus driver and I loved it till I liked this one boy but he was older then me he sat by me on the bus and Dads eyes were all over me he talked to me tried to hold my hand and Dad pulled the bus over he stood the boy up asked him where he lived even though he knew and the guy told him he said do you want to make it home standing or would you like to have me carry you up to your home he said why would you carry me I can walk Dad said do you know that the little girl you are hitting on is my own sweet daughter he said no he said i believe you mean no Sir kid well she is and if I see you so much as look at her from this second on it just might be your last so he got up sat next to another boy ev

Comment by Rodeli on November 2, 2011 at 9:56pm

Hi Teisha, yes, I enjoy your writing--I can see your passion and expression in what you write and that is a very good place to start. I would recommend to take as many English and writing courses as you can to keep improving your art. Words are a form of art to express yourself. People will take good writers more seriously. Are you able to join the school paper or write some articles for a teen magazine or something to get more experience? Do not give up on your dream or passion to be a writer. So many young people start out with dreams and lose them along the way, especially if they do not have the support of grown ups. Be true to what you are passionate about it. If you love what you do, you will do it well and it will not be work. Oprah has a saying like that. Keep up the good work and believe in yourself and your talents.

Comment by Eliza alisa abgail on November 4, 2011 at 12:52am

Hey dear if a writer is what you want to be.Do it. Don't doubt your abilities!! You can always improve yourself and you have alot of potential and talent.Don't waste it on doubting yourself :D I know you will go far!! you probably overtake Jk rowling if you put your mind to it. I also know what its like to be bullied and worried if someone pulls off your wig. But you know if people ask you if its wig. you can always say is yours a wig? it look too good to be real.Keep fighting and surviving because you got big dreams ahead of you beautiful.

Comment by x3Awesome'TTx3 on November 4, 2011 at 7:44am

Thank you Alisa!! And thank you too Rodeli!! :)

Comment by Tiffany P on November 4, 2011 at 9:20am

Its a shame that these things are going on and i myself hated school and i had a head full of hair all thru school and i still had my books thrown into the street and my stuff stolen. anyway you will get stonger even though it feels like your about to lose it, people dont get any better but you get a handle on how to deal with people when they decide that manners wasnt something they cared to learn. Every day young people are going thru the same things as you are and its sad that some take their life over it please stay strong and if it gets too bad your teachers and parents need to get involved. hope all goes well :o)

Comment by x3Awesome'TTx3 on November 4, 2011 at 11:23am

Thank you Tiffany!! :)_

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