Comment by cindy Babs on September 12, 2011 at 11:22am

Hi Amy. My daughter is a SR. In high school and will b going off to school next fall as well.she is shy and will b in the same boat as you. Do u know who your roommate will b? Personally., if it were me I would b upfront with at least her just to make it easier on u. Chances r she will like u for u regardless of hair situation. U can tell her u prefer to b private about it. Most humans r good souls: compassionate and kind. Work up some courage. U CAN do this. Worry about u not the others. The more confidence u have the easier it Will b. I know it will b tough on u but life is a struggle for everyone now and then. U will get thru this. Give yourself a chance. Message me. There r a few young girls on here that have already gone thru what you're about to. One in particular whom I personally know. She can give u more inspiration than anyone. Thinking of u amy....

Comment by Tallgirl on September 12, 2011 at 11:41am

Ask if the dorm roommate selection can find someone for you who is just as nervous and in need of privacy, for whatever condition. Make sure you are also an accepting and kind person. One advantage I had was that the bathroom could be my changing place, with locking door, right in the room. When in college, I think I wore scarves or sleeping caps to bed. My alopecia was never really a topic of discussion, as I wore wigs during the day, for parties and dates. Who says it is anyone's business but your own???

Comment by Calipso on September 12, 2011 at 4:29pm

I moved to Norway to a new university, there were a lot of new experience. At first I thought that it will be a problem, but somehow (probably because I don't see my hair) It wasn't a problem, I made new friends, and people who dare to ask about my hair are still very polite, and just ask from curiosity. Had a lot of people say they like my haircut and stuff like that, I choose to believe they were sincere:) P.s I don't wear a wig, My hair is now 6mm long, but I'm planning to shorten them to 3 or to 0...Don't know. Also a very positive experience was to know that one f my teachers has alopecia - in my life I saw only 2 people with alopecia - a girl in an airport and him! I believe there is a reason for everything and in such a small town to meet another alopecian is truly a sign of something. (here live only 4thousand people). It may be scary at first, but you have to let it go, forget what's going on on your head and focus on the conversation, experiences and your surroundings. I sometimes wonder why did they look up to my head and only then remember, but It doesn't bother me, I catch myself staring at girls boobs just because they are there and it catches my eye, but no more reason, the same with people looking at my head I guess - It's something different and it catches the eye:)

Comment by Amy on September 15, 2011 at 7:35am

Thank you for the support

I'm so glad I found this site. Just knowing that others have gone through the same things that I am going through now reassures me a lot and has helped to boost my confidence :) I'll post another blog in a few weeks time to tell you how it all goes!

Comment by Karen Smith on September 15, 2011 at 9:13am

Hi, My daughter is a sophomore at a big university and is having the time of her life. We frequently have to remind her why she is there because she likes to have fun. She roomed with her friend last year and had a private bath. This year she is in an apartment with 4 girls. She did not want to have to handle the community bathroom and if you let the school know this, most have connecting baths with some of the rooms. She wears the all lace wigs, sleeps in them and changes every 2-4 days. She only tells the people she is close too, mainly because she does not want to think about it or dwell on it. She attended her boyfriends frat formal this past weekend and they all stay in the same room.It was at a lake and they all swam. She attended a couple of those last year also when she did not have a boyfriend. One of the guys knew about the alopecia and one did not. I was worried about it and she said it was fine that she could handle it and she did. Going off to college is scary but don't let alopecia stop you from living your life. I wish that it was not her thing to deal with but she does not dwell on it. She wears gorgeous wigs, is in to fashion and does her make-up well. When she is out in public guys stare at her because she is pretty and people stop and tell her how pretty her hair is. Good luck at college.

Comment by Sanah Jivani on September 16, 2011 at 4:22pm

Hello. :)

I am a freshman in highschool and i have gone completely wig-less! Last year i wore my wig, and everyone treated me like a normal human being. You're going to make friends, and you're going to be okay! As for your condition? If they're true friends they'll understand. You're no different then a normal human being. In fact, after i told most of my friends and started going without my wig the support doubled. I have people cheering me on every step of the way, and i'm sure you will to. Be strong and confident, and know that things aren't as bad as they seem to be! You're amazing.

Good luck! (:

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